Okay, I don't want to admit that it bothers me, but I have to get it out somehow because it's been on my mind.
A white guy who used to threaten me with physical violence and call me nasty racial epithets (I'm Asian) in high school found me on Facebook. It's been ten years since we've graduated high school, and he sent me a nasty message saying to me, "You were a punk bich (sic) in high school, and you're a punk ***** now, and you KNOW I mean that."
What's this guy's problem? Geez, I moved on and forgot about it. I blocked him on Facebook and reported the comment to the Facebook team. But now, I can't concentrate at work because I start having fantasies about torturing/murdering him to death very slowly. Last night I dreamed I was stabbing him in the testicles with an icepick, repeatedly, over and over, and it actually EXCITED me (use your imagination, yes, THAT kind of excitement). Those feelings and fantasies disgust me because they offend my sensibilities and they remind me that I am capable of brutal violence if pushed the wrong way.
I hate this guy so much because he brings out the worst feelings in me. Fundamentally, I am a kind, loving, hardworking person with a beautiful girlfriend and a great career, but this guy got to me in the nasty, ugly way that only high school hate can do to you. I DON'T want to murder this guy, but I would if I were assured I would get away with it, scot-free.
So, now you know that I'm a psychopath who takes enjoyment in torturing people I hate, my question is:
1. What's this guy's problem?
2. What should I do about it?
3. Any emotionally healthy coping skills?