• Why is a guy nervous and awkward around you then, manages to revert back to his somewhat confident mode the next day?

    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it... show more
    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it wasn't a rejection kind of an awkwardness, it was like he was trying to make an effort to build connection but couldn't hide his nervousness). Then, a few days later, this awkwardness or nervousness just disappeared and was replaced by confidence and his natural mode again. He was able to talk to me normally again when we were alone. I wonder what happened there. It doesn't make sense that he'd lose attraction that fast (once you're attracted it takes a lot to put off, right?) so I was guessing he somehow manages to pull himself all together in just a few days time but that's from a female's point of view. I'd like to hear about what guys think regarding this situation. Please and thank you! I know a guy gets all nervous and awkward in front of a girl he likes, but what if it's just for a few moments? Does that mean he's just a little attracted? As in the amount of nervousness is in proportionate to his liking extent. Or do guys usually overcome it or suppress it by conscious effort after a while?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 8 months ago
  • Why is a guy nervous and awkward around you then, manages to revert back to his somewhat confident mode the next day?

    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it... show more
    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it wasn't a rejection kind of an awkwardness, it was like he was trying to make an effort to build connection but couldn't hide his nervousness). Then, a few days later, this awkwardness or nervousness just disappeared and was replaced by confidence and his natural mode again. He was able to talk to me normally again when we were alone. I wonder what happened there. It doesn't make sense that he'd lose attraction that fast (once you're attracted it takes a lot to put off, right?) so I was guessing he somehow manages to pull himself all together in just a few days time but that's from a female's point of view. I'd like to hear about what guys think regarding this situation. Please and thank you! I know a guy gets all nervous and awkward in front of a girl he likes, but what if it's just for a few moments? Does that mean he's just a little attracted? As in the amount of nervousness is in proportionate to his liking extent. Or do guys usually overcome it or suppress it by conscious effort after a while?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 8 months ago
  • Why is a guy nervous and awkward around you then, manages to revert back to his somewhat confident mode the next day?

    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it... show more
    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it wasn't a rejection kind of an awkwardness, it was like he was trying to make an effort to build connection but couldn't hide his nervousness). Then, a few days later, this awkwardness or nervousness just disappeared and was replaced by confidence and his natural mode again. He was able to talk to me normally again when we were alone. I wonder what happened there. It doesn't make sense that he'd lose attraction that fast (once you're attracted it takes a lot to put off, right?) so I was guessing he somehow manages to pull himself all together in just a few days time but that's from a female's point of view. I'd like to hear about what guys think regarding this situation. Please and thank you! I know a guy gets all nervous and awkward in front of a girl he likes, but what if it's just for a few moments? Does that mean he's just a little attracted? As in the amount of nervousness is in proportionate to his liking extent. Or do guys usually overcome it or suppress it by conscious effort after a while?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 8 months ago
  • Why is a guy nervous and awkward around you then, manages to revert back to his somewhat confident mode the next day?

    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it... show more
    I've been friends for months with a guy whom I know admires me to a certain extend. He seeks for my validation and values my opinion and liking way more than those from other girls. One day, I decided to flirt with him a little and he got awkward and nervous around me (He was normal before this. I'm sure he likes me that moment because it wasn't a rejection kind of an awkwardness, it was like he was trying to make an effort to build connection but couldn't hide his nervousness). Then, a few days later, this awkwardness or nervousness just disappeared and was replaced by confidence and his natural mode again. He was able to talk to me normally again when we were alone. I wonder what happened there. It doesn't make sense that he'd lose attraction that fast (once you're attracted it takes a lot to put off, right?) so I was guessing he somehow manages to pull himself all together in just a few days time but that's from a female's point of view. I'd like to hear about what guys think regarding this situation. Please and thank you! I know a guy gets all nervous and awkward in front of a girl he likes, but what if it's just for a few moments? Does that mean he's just a little attracted? As in the amount of nervousness is in proportionate to his liking extent. Or do guys usually overcome it or suppress it by conscious effort after a while?
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 8 months ago
  • Should I act radically so that I can move on from this guy?

    Hi, thank you for taking your time. You see, I have been liking a guy for more than two years. One year ago, he started constantly texting me everyday until I confessed to him. He was stunned at first, giving me excuses to find another guy who is better. Then, he started giving me mixed signals. Assuming he's not a player (from my... show more
    Hi, thank you for taking your time. You see, I have been liking a guy for more than two years. One year ago, he started constantly texting me everyday until I confessed to him. He was stunned at first, giving me excuses to find another guy who is better. Then, he started giving me mixed signals. Assuming he's not a player (from my knowledge), I know I'm not entirely farfetched from his preference in women. I was too timid to believe that I actually had a chance with him (self esteem problem) so I didn't respond actively to his invitations (I was afraid of being hurt and deeply confused by him). After a certain time, he stopped asking me out or sort and until now, we only text once in a while to check if each other is doing fine in our respective lives. I thought my liking towards him would go away. Though deeply hurt, not to mention, all the time wasted thinking of him, I'm still unable to let him go one year later, after the initial but vague rejection. I have so many questions that need answers but none of us ever mentioned about them. I can't move on for now. So I am thinking of confessing again and asking him to be a man and reject me directly this time. But, I would scare him by asking him straight after one year. Regardless, if it means I could get him out of my thoughts once and for all.... So what do you think? Should I let it be and still think of him for heaven knows how long or just ask him to reject me formally, get hurt badly and get done with it?
    1 answer · Singles & Dating · 2 years ago
  • Over possessive issue? Please help!!?

    First of all, thank you for reading this. I met my best friend a year and a half ago. Since then, we've been doing almost everything together. People around think that we're lesbians. But we both know that we're not. I'm very grateful to have her as my best friend. You see, I used to be a social butterfly before I met her. Then, I... show more
    First of all, thank you for reading this. I met my best friend a year and a half ago. Since then, we've been doing almost everything together. People around think that we're lesbians. But we both know that we're not. I'm very grateful to have her as my best friend. You see, I used to be a social butterfly before I met her. Then, I thought that I wanted to change, I want to have smaller social circle with more genuine friendships. (If you have too many friends, you won't have time to build up strong ones) That was when I decided to give it a try. My best friend is like a pure golden apple. She's smart (top of the class) but has a genuine heart for everyone, In fact, everyone likes her. She is easy going and never step on anyone's tail. And she doesn't get mad, ever (except in front of me), and thinks good of everyone, even those who trespass against her. But the problem is, I don't have a big heart like hers. I get jealous really easily with the people around her, just because we're parting and she's going elsewhere. I was afraid that I would one day be replaced. But she assured me that I'm forever her best friend and tries to compromise every of my insecurity issues. For countless times, I've gone mad and upset just because I think our friendship wouldn't last or wouldn't stay the same. I don't trust her enough. I don't have the confidence. We kept on fighting and resolving afterwards. Even though she hardly gets mad, she gets upset easily when I'm very cold towards her. I know she cares for me a lot. Everyone around has been telling me so.) Like a there was once, she promised to come back easily just after school had ended to have lunch with me, but didn't fulfill her promise because her classmates asked her out for lunch, and she isn't the person who says no to a friendly invitation, so she texted me that she would have lunch outside and apologized, I didn't see the message so I was really upset. After that, she even bought me lunch as compensation but I didn't take it well. We didn't speak to each other. I know I hurt her by ignoring her, but I just couldn't speak to her at the moment. And she started ignoring me as well. I feel like I'm such a bad person comparing to her, always using her weakness and manipulating her. I wanna change that. Now, I'm afraid she'll one day be tired of my childish acts. I told her I gave up on our friendship a few times, but she still held on to it. (I'm easily discouraged and lacking of confidence) I'm afraid if one day, she's the one who decides to give up on me, then, we're over. So, what can I do to prevent this? What should I change in mind to protect our friendship and make sure we never fight again because of my lacking in security? How can I grow up with out letting go of our friendship and treat her better? Thank you.
    1 answer · Friends · 4 years ago
  • Over possessive issue? Help please?

    First of all, thank you for reading this. I met my best friend a year and a half ago. Since then, we've been doing almost everything together. People around think that we're lesbians. But we both know that we're not. I'm very grateful to have her as my best friend. You see, I used to be a social butterfly before I met her. Then, I... show more
    First of all, thank you for reading this. I met my best friend a year and a half ago. Since then, we've been doing almost everything together. People around think that we're lesbians. But we both know that we're not. I'm very grateful to have her as my best friend. You see, I used to be a social butterfly before I met her. Then, I thought that I wanted to change, I want to have smaller social circle with more genuine friendships. (If you have too many friends, you won't have time to build up strong ones) That was when I decided to give it a try. My best friend is like a pure golden apple. She's smart (top of the class) but has a genuine heart for everyone, In fact, everyone likes her. She is easy going and never step on anyone's tail. And she doesn't get mad, ever (except in front of me), and thinks good of everyone, even those who trespass against her. But the problem is, I don't have a big heart like hers. I get jealous really easily with the people around her, just because we're parting and she's going elsewhere. I was afraid that I would one day be replaced. But she assured me that I'm forever her best friend and tries to compromise every of my insecurity issues. For countless times, I've gone mad and upset just because I think our friendship wouldn't last or wouldn't stay the same. I don't trust her enough. I don't have the confidence. We kept on fighting and resolving afterwards. Even though she hardly gets mad, she gets upset easily when I'm very cold towards her. I know she cares for me a lot. Everyone around has been telling me so.) Like a there was once, she promised to come back easily just after school had ended to have lunch with me, but didn't fulfill her promise because her classmates asked her out for lunch, and she isn't the person who says no to a friendly invitation, so she texted me that she would have lunch outside and apologized, I didn't see the message so I was really upset. After that, she even bought me lunch as compensation but I didn't take it well. We didn't speak to each other. I know I hurt her by ignoring her, but I just couldn't speak to her at the moment. And she started ignoring me as well. I feel like I'm such a bad person comparing to her, always using her weakness and manipulating her. I wanna change that. Now, I'm afraid she'll one day be tired of my childish acts. I told her I gave up on our friendship a few times, but she still held on to it. (I'm easily discouraged and lacking of confidence) I'm afraid if one day, she's the one who decides to give up on me, then, we're over. So, what can I do to prevent this? What should I change in mind to protect our friendship and make sure we never fight again because of my lacking in security? How can I grow up with out letting go of our friendship and treat her better? Thank you.
    1 answer · Friends · 4 years ago
  • I feel lonely... My best friend leave me out of the gang and I'm all alone. Help?

    My best friend, who we used to do everything together, left me out of the gang,,, They're hanging out somewhere and I'm all alone. I have no one to talk to... Can anyone tell me what to do to make myself feel better? =( I'm feeling really down...
    My best friend, who we used to do everything together, left me out of the gang,,, They're hanging out somewhere and I'm all alone. I have no one to talk to... Can anyone tell me what to do to make myself feel better? =( I'm feeling really down...
    3 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • Help? Problems with my best friend?

    My friend is smarter than me. She's got better results than me. I'm happy for her but at the same time i wish to be like her. She studies less than I do but gets way better results. How can I make myself feel better instead of feeling so inferior to her? Besides working harder next time...
    My friend is smarter than me. She's got better results than me. I'm happy for her but at the same time i wish to be like her. She studies less than I do but gets way better results. How can I make myself feel better instead of feeling so inferior to her? Besides working harder next time...
    3 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • Friendship Trust issues? help!!?

    She's my first best friend in my life and she's awesome, I don't want to lose her but I'm constantly troubled with insecurity, leading me to act rather childishly. I'm not usually like that. It's just her because I care too much for her, as a best friend of course. Well, we're kinda different from each other, she's... show more
    She's my first best friend in my life and she's awesome, I don't want to lose her but I'm constantly troubled with insecurity, leading me to act rather childishly. I'm not usually like that. It's just her because I care too much for her, as a best friend of course. Well, we're kinda different from each other, she's rather calm, logical, rational and nerdy kind. Rather reserved but only open herself when she's with me. I'm more of the out-going, loud, sensitive and dramatic kind. So everytime when I told her how I feel, she would response rather maturely. Like the last time i told her i was insecure because she reduce more of our contacts without a reason, telling me not to depend on her too much. I got emotional and she told me that there's no need and no reason for me to do so(got emotional and confront). I feel so immature and bad somehow. I don't understand her sometimes because she doesn't talk much, even in front of me. And we fought quite a numbers of times. She even tells me that she's never gone through a friendship with these much chaos like ours. She once told me I'm her best friend, even closer than other friends she has a long time ago. but that was a long time ago, I'd afraid as time goes by, I've exposed most of my faults and bad sides, she would dump me. You know, thigns change, people change. That's why I'm being insecure all these times and it's the trigger to most of our fights. I recall quite a number of times I told her she can leave me if she thinks that we couldn't be friends during the fights. Because I don't think she can accept me for constantly outburst for ridiculous reason like my insecurity. (It's better that I ask her to leave rather than she leaves me on her own right? It wouldn't hurt that much that way) how should I fix this? How can I protect this friendship and stop myself from asking her to leave?
    3 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • I told my best friend how I feel and she...? Insecurity and trust issues...?

    She's my first best friend in my life and she's awesome, I don't want to lose her but I'm constantly troubled with insecurity, leading me to act rather childishly. I'm not usually like that. It's just her because I care too much for her, as a best friend of course. Well, we're kinda different from each other, she's... show more
    She's my first best friend in my life and she's awesome, I don't want to lose her but I'm constantly troubled with insecurity, leading me to act rather childishly. I'm not usually like that. It's just her because I care too much for her, as a best friend of course. Well, we're kinda different from each other, she's rather calm, logical, rational and nerdy kind. Rather reserved but only open herself when she's with me. I'm more of the out-going, loud, sensitive and dramatic kind. So everytime when I told her how I feel, she would response rather maturely. Like the last time i told her i was insecure because she reduce more of our contacts without a reason, telling me not to depend on her too much. I got emotional and she told me that there's no need and no reason for me to do so(got emotional and confront). I feel so immature and bad somehow. I don't understand her sometimes because she doesn't talk much, even in front of me. And we fought quite a numbers of times. She even tells me that she's never gone through a friendship with these much chaos like ours. She once told me I'm her best friend, even closer than other friends she has a long time ago. but that was a long time ago, I'd afraid as time goes by, I've exposed most of my faults and bad sides, she would dump me. You know, thigns change, people change. That's why I'm being insecure all these times and it's the trigger to most of our fights. I recall quite a number of times I told her she can leave me if she thinks that we couldn't be friends during the fights. Because I don't think she can accept me for constantly outburst for ridiculous reason like my insecurity. (It's better that I ask her to leave rather than she leaves me on her own right? It wouldn't hurt that much that way) how should I fix this? How can I protect this friendship and stop myself from asking her to leave?
    3 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • What should I do with this friendship?

    I have this wonderful best friend of mine, and I know almost everything about her. Once I was afraid of losing her but right now I'm confused and I don't really know what to do. We fought several times (big part on me for being insecure). Though being with her makes me the happiest, sometimes it can be really tiring when any one of us was... show more
    I have this wonderful best friend of mine, and I know almost everything about her. Once I was afraid of losing her but right now I'm confused and I don't really know what to do. We fought several times (big part on me for being insecure). Though being with her makes me the happiest, sometimes it can be really tiring when any one of us was playing the 'ignoring' thing. She's my best friend and I'm hers. That makes her someone really special to me. And no matter what happens, I'd always be there for her. Recently, she told me not to depend on her too much. (As in not to find her too often for chat) She says she want me to be happy even when she's not around. I know that one day or another we'll be separating. But I really miss her now and then. (Told her so) She put me in a position that I have to restrain myself from telling her stories I wanted to share with her. I put myself in bad mood whenever I miss her! It's like it's wrong to miss somebody. It's not like we're going to on our separate ways very soon... I still need to see her. But now I don't know how to do with her. How should I react? Should I just distant myself from her (not finding her to chat sometimes)? Should i find my own hobby and just... remain normal friends with her? She said she wanted me to be happy. But what makes me the happiest is to just be natural with her (Talk to her when I feel like it, not restraining and all, know about her recent doings, fight and tell her that she's special) I tried telling her this, but somehow it turns out like I'm bringing all the dramas into her life. =(
    2 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • Friendship Problems... Help!?

    My best friend tells me to stop missing her during the holidays. I feel a bit depressed because now I have to restrain myself from thinking of my best friend?! I wanted to share a lot with her but she seems very unresponsive sometimes and it hurts. I know that she may be busy and I have to get used to life without her by my side. But how can I make... show more
    My best friend tells me to stop missing her during the holidays. I feel a bit depressed because now I have to restrain myself from thinking of my best friend?! I wanted to share a lot with her but she seems very unresponsive sometimes and it hurts. I know that she may be busy and I have to get used to life without her by my side. But how can I make myself feel better when I'm missing my best friend but she wants me to retrain? How do you make yourself feel better when you miss someone you know you shouldn't?
    4 answers · Friends · 5 years ago
  • Guys! If you place your head very close (just beside) a girl's head in a photo, does it neccesary means that..?

    Guys! If you place your head very close (just beside) a girl's head in a photo, does it usually means that you like the girl or are you just being friendly?
    Guys! If you place your head very close (just beside) a girl's head in a photo, does it usually means that you like the girl or are you just being friendly?
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 years ago
  • Confused... Lacking of courage too... Help?

    Okay... So my situation is a bit complicated... But please give me some advice cause I really need it... I'm a girl btw. I'm afraid of commitment so I just maintain friends with all guys... And then, there's this 'special' guy that is different from all the other great guys. And i afraid he's also the afraid-to-commit... show more
    Okay... So my situation is a bit complicated... But please give me some advice cause I really need it... I'm a girl btw. I'm afraid of commitment so I just maintain friends with all guys... And then, there's this 'special' guy that is different from all the other great guys. And i afraid he's also the afraid-to-commit type... I don't know why, but the more I'm thinking of him, the more I'll be trying to escape from him. However, I'll end up accidentally bumping into him... I'm escaping because everytime I'm near him, I'll be so confused and I'll feel... uneasy? So I chose to escape. it has been one and a half month we've been like this. And I think he kinda suspect I 'like' him, which I'm not sure if I really do(?) He tried to talk to me but I can't really keep the convo on going... I feel so unsure... Well... what I want to ask is... If you're me, what will you do?? Any advice please? Should I take one big step to bring myself to do something?? Or should I just escape him cause he isn't the one for me??
    2 answers · Singles & Dating · 7 years ago
  • Guy problem... Can you tell me what's on his mind?

    I've been friends with a guy and he just recently knows that I like him (Though I didn't tell him directly). He seemed to escape me/ ignore me for the first few days. ( I did the same in return cause I'm the shy kind)... Then, now he started to approach me... Can you tell me what's he thinking exactly?? I really can't... show more
    I've been friends with a guy and he just recently knows that I like him (Though I didn't tell him directly). He seemed to escape me/ ignore me for the first few days. ( I did the same in return cause I'm the shy kind)... Then, now he started to approach me... Can you tell me what's he thinking exactly?? I really can't understand him!! Thanks. :D
    9 answers · Singles & Dating · 7 years ago
  • An out-going guy but is really shy when it comes to his crush..?

    He feels comfortable talking and flirting with girls... But when it comes to the girl he likes, he turns to be really shy...For this type of guy... How do I know if he likes someone? What are the signs to look for?
    He feels comfortable talking and flirting with girls... But when it comes to the girl he likes, he turns to be really shy...For this type of guy... How do I know if he likes someone? What are the signs to look for?
    3 answers · Singles & Dating · 7 years ago
  • Do guys feel comfortable telling a girl about his crush and love life?

    I mean... do most guys feel comfortable telling a girl (which is not a close friend of his) about his crush and love life?
    I mean... do most guys feel comfortable telling a girl (which is not a close friend of his) about his crush and love life?
    5 answers · Singles & Dating · 7 years ago
  • IS HE INTERESTED OR JUST BEING FRIENDLY?

    Okay... So I wanna know if this guy is interested or is it just my wishful thoughts... These are the 'hints' I'm getting from him: -He sometimes comes near me for no reason at all. But he doesn't talk. -He tried to start a conversation with me, but I was a bit shy to answer him... Since then he's always waiting for me to... show more
    Okay... So I wanna know if this guy is interested or is it just my wishful thoughts... These are the 'hints' I'm getting from him: -He sometimes comes near me for no reason at all. But he doesn't talk. -He tried to start a conversation with me, but I was a bit shy to answer him... Since then he's always waiting for me to start the convo... -He interrupts my convo with other guys. But he's not talking to me but to the other guy on minor things... (Couldn't he wait instead of interrupting?) -He stares at me sometimes. -As I've said, I'm kinda shy towards guys so I tend to maintain distance with them. But he's the only one who always 'accidently' have body contact with me. -He always laugh at something I say, even though it's not his concern. -I have a feeling that he's trying to get near me (Changing seat to sit beside me, standing near me...) -Always mentioning that some other girl is interested in him. - He somehow complimented about my appearance in a less straight-forward way, either in front of me or in front of my friends. So... do you think he's interested to become friends with me or beyond friends? Or is he just being friendly?
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 8 years ago