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  • Should I cut these two people out of my life? If so, how to do so gently?

    I’d lived in the city I go to university at for two before this pandemic hit, and I’m moving back there this Fall. I haven’t made a lot of friends there. I’ve made a lot of almost friends- people I message regularly and hang out with at one place but never quite got to the point of hanging out with one-on-one more than once or twice. The two friends I do have... I know beggars can’t be choosers, but I’m a little unhappy with them. One of them I enjoy the company of, but she’s asked me for a lot of money, and I honestly feel used. I’m not sure if she actually needs the money, and she begs like she’d go hungry without it. My other friend is my ex. I don’t enjoy spending time with him- he’s extremely insensitive and really made me feel bad about myself while we were dating, plus he’s extremely bad at conversation due to taking little interest in others and having poor social skills.

    My question is... if I do manage to make better friends, am I justified in cutting these two off? What is the gentlest possible way to do so?

    If I do break from them, do I break from them now, or wait until I have better friends?

    2 AnswersFriends3 months ago
  • How to improve my social life?

    I’d lived in the city I go to university at for two before this pandemic hit, and I’m moving back there this Fall. I haven’t made a lot of friends there. I’ve made a lot of almost friends- people I message regularly and hang out with at one place but never quite got to the point of hanging out with one-on-one more than once or twice. The two friends I do have... I know beggars can’t be choosers, but I’m a little unhappy with them. One of them I enjoy the company of, but she’s asked me for a lot of money, and I honestly feel used. I’m not sure if she actually needs the money, and she begs like she’d go hungry without it. My other friend is my ex. I don’t enjoy spending time with him- he’s extremely insensitive and really made me feel bad about myself while we were dating, plus he’s extremely bad at conversation due to taking little interest in others and having poor social skills.

    I want tips on how to make friends. I feel badly having to stick with these two because I don’t have better options. I don’t feel know where I’d start, with the quarantine being what it is and the campus being closed. Plus, I’m autistic and very shy, so I really struggle with talking to strangers. However, I’ve made friends I like in other places, such as in high school and in my summer jobs, so I know it can’t be impossible to make them here.

    Any advice is welcome. Especially on how to make people interested in me, and how to make people want to be my friend. Sorry this comes off as pathetic.

    Friends3 months ago
  • What are the legal consequences of my action?

    On the way to kickboxing class, there was a pedestrian on a residential road. He wouldn’t get out of my way so I had to go around him. He started following my vehicle and caught up with me once I was in the parking lot. He thought I’d gotten too close to him while moving around him, and said that I’d almost run him over and he had my license plate number and was calling the cops. He said “have fun getting pulled over.”

    I headed home immediately because he was aggravated and I didn’t feel like my car would be safe if I left it alone while I was in kickboxing. I was expecting to be pulled over, but wasn’t.

    I’m a little nervous now because I don’t know the legal consequences of my action. I thought I’d given him enough room, but his perspective is as valid as mine and he wouldn’t have gotten angry if it weren’t a big deal. And there’s no saying who’s word the police will believe. Should I just agree with the pedestrian so he doesn’t get even angrier at me?

    He seemed like a teenager, and it’s been 40 minutes and nothing’s happened. Is it possible that there are no consequences and he just didn’t know that? How soon should I expect a talk with the police?

    4 AnswersLaw Enforcement & Police8 months ago
  • I think I'm gay. How do I change that?

    I've considered myself bisexual for three years now, but I'm starting to really doubt that. I have a boyfriend, and I've been trying to increase my heterosexual appetites (that is to say, bring them above, "zero on a good day, in the negatives most of the time") so that I can begin a healthy, mutually enjoyable sex life with him when he's ready. I've tried listening to music that sexualizes men, I've tried therapy, and I've even tried praying a couple times (I'm not even religious. Or atheist. I have no strong religious convictions). It hasn't worked.

    When it comes to girls, I'm like a red-blooded man. They make me feel like I can understand the feeling that causes men to misbehave sexually. If I were totally id-driven, I just don't think I'd ever pursue a man again. Plus, my therapist is suggesting that I might just be a homosexual.

    Kate, if you're there, I need help. I love my boyfriend. I don't want to break up with him. I'm not homophobic, either: this is just about MY choice to save MY relationship. You guys do you.

  • Alright, maybe I'm gay. How do I fix it?

    I've considered myself bisexual for three years now, but I'm starting to really doubt that.

    I have a boyfriend, and I've been trying to increase my heterosexual appetites (that is to say, bring them above, "zero on a good day, in the negatives most of the time") so that I can begin a healthy, mutually enjoyable sex life with him when he's ready. I've tried listening to music that sexualizes men, I've tried therapy, and I've even tried praying a couple times (I'm not even religious. Or atheist. I have no strong religious convictions).

    When it comes to girls, I'm like a red-blooded man. They make me feel like I can understand why men misbehave sexually. If I were totally id-driven, I just don't think I'd ever pursue a man again. Plus, my therapist is suggesting that I might just be a homosexual

    Kate, if you're there, I need help. I love my boyfriend. I don't want to break up with him. I'm not homophobic, either: this is just about MY choice to save MY relationship. You guys do you.

    3 AnswersReligion & Spirituality1 year ago
  • How can I calm my mom down?

    She's been in one of her moods all day. I overheard that it was because I'm going to fail chemistry. I don't know what to do. I'm honestly doing my best with chemistry. I'm even getting tutoring. Dad said that I need to let her settle down herself, but I don't want her to be upset like this. It makes her hard to live with. She bottles it up until something incredibly minor sets her off. She just went to hide in her room because I peeled a potato to help with dinner and she wanted to be the one to do it. I need to cheer her up.

    1 AnswerFamily2 years ago
  • What is a metaphor that is kind of like "diamond in the rough?"?

    I'm reviewing a dystopian novel with a teenager as the main character. It looks like the kind of novel you'd find next to Divergent and the Maze Runner, so I presumed at first that it would be a visceral, pandering, fun-but-substanceless read. I was dead wrong. This is a novel of great quality, and it had more in common with the likes of Ender's Game. I was going to describe it as a diamond in the rough because it is a thing of great quality that I found among things of lesser quality. Then I looked up what that metaphor actually meant. It means a thing of quality that's rough around the edges or in need of polishing. That's not what I want to express. Do you guys have a better metaphor I could use?

    3 AnswersBooks & Authors2 years ago
  • How to feel more comfortable in my own skin?

    I feel like I'm unlikeable and that I have to constantly hold up the facade of being likeable to maintain relationships. It's pretty exhausting to feel like my relationships are fake, on thin ice, or both. I wish it could come naturally to me. Is there a way to become like that?

    Since it's relevant, I guess I should admit that I have autism. Does that mean that it's impossible?

    1 AnswerPsychology2 years ago
  • How to sell my soul?

    I used black magic to foresee my death. It's soon, and I'm in panic. I can't see any other way: I need to sell my soul to lengthen my life. I'll figure out a way to reclaim it once I have the time. I can't find the spell to do it, though. Do I need to summon Satan, or is just a demon fine? Please say a demon. That'll be easier to trick. Also, what's the best way to address a demon?

    13 AnswersReligion & Spirituality2 years ago
  • How to feel comfortable in my own skin?

    I feel like I'm unlikeable and that I have to constantly hold up the facade of being likeable to maintain relationships. It's pretty exhausting to feel like my relationships are fake, on thin ice, or both. I wish it could come naturally to me. Is there a way to become like that?

    Since it's relevant, I guess I should admit that I have autism. Does that mean that it's impossible?

    1 AnswerPsychology2 years ago
  • What is the difference between someone childlike and someone childish?

    What traits does a childlike person have? What traits does a childish person have?

    5 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships2 years ago
  • Why are pie-cut eyes no longer a thing in cartoons?

    Sorry, Bendy and the Ink Machine made me kind of fall in love with them. They're just so adorable! Why'd they fall out of fashion?

    1 AnswerComics & Animation2 years ago
  • I haven't talked to anyone who wasn't selling me something in all of February. Should I kill myself?

    I'm just so scared of people... And sad. I feel like I have raw, painful blisters all over my insides. I don't know what to do. My mother just died, so that could be it. She was a single parent, and I have no siblings, so I won't be missed. I realized recently that with her gone, there's no reason I couldn't just end it. I think my asocial nature has gotten worse since she died. I didn't exactly keep track, but I think this is the longest "streak" I've ever had. Will I keep getting worse? Human contact seems to make the rawness go away for awhile. Can I get less anxious, or at least, keep from becoming more so? Am I going to be okay? Or will I only get rawer? How long should I wait to find out?

    4 AnswersMental Health2 years ago
  • How to do mischief?

    I am 19 and want to do something reckless/mischievous. What can I do? I don't care if it kills me, but I don't want to go to prison. What can I do?

    Also, I'm too cowardly to drive dangerously.

    4 AnswersPolls & Surveys2 years ago
  • Should I buy Dead Space 3?

    I've heard a lot of people say that the series just gets less and less horror-related as it goes along and that Dead Space 3 barely has any. Well, I've decided that I don't care. While Dead Space was great, and Dead Space 2 was different, I like the second one better even though people say it's less horror-oriented. Honestly, I didn't find that at all, and improved gameplay aside, I think that it was more challenging, had better action, and had a better story. The drama was great and I didn't mind the touch of romance at all. I also really liked how Isaac was treated like an action hero instead of an everyman in it- it made me feel invincible. I love Isaac. Invincibility might be the antithesis of horror, but it worked for me. It's my favorite game.

    So, even though I know that Dead Space 3 has a love triangle and isn't very scary, I've been wondering if I'd like it anyhow. The customizable weapon thing seems really cool and the graphics look downright incredible. Is the romance really that important/annoying? Is it still fun and challenging? Is the gameplay good? Is Isaac characterized properly? Are Brethren Moons as awesome as they look and seem?