• How can I feel inspired?

    I'm a 20 year old guy. I feel very uninspired and bored. I work at a grocery store, which my parents drive me to and back home. I make no money hardly. I wasn't a good student no matter how hard I worked, so after I finished high school I decided I wanted to work. I can't afford a car. Also, I have no... show more
    I'm a 20 year old guy. I feel very uninspired and bored. I work at a grocery store, which my parents drive me to and back home. I make no money hardly. I wasn't a good student no matter how hard I worked, so after I finished high school I decided I wanted to work. I can't afford a car. Also, I have no friends. I don't want to ask girls out because I have no car. Any ideas? I'm starting to have a bad attitude toward work and I feel like just laying in my bed. I have nothing to look forward to and I'm sick of it. I feel like I work for nothing.
    4 answers · Friends · 4 hours ago
  • I am over 40 years old and just dated a few guys all my life. Is it weird to tell the new guy I am dating? What will he think of me?

    Best answer: The solution to your self-imposed dilemma is in the text of your question: New guy. You are under no obligation to tell him anything you don't want to disclose to him. That will come later if the relationship moves forward. For now keep it light, keep it simple, and get to know one another. As an aside: if you... show more
    Best answer: The solution to your self-imposed dilemma is in the text of your question: New guy. You are under no obligation to tell him anything you don't want to disclose to him. That will come later if the relationship moves forward. For now keep it light, keep it simple, and get to know one another. As an aside: if you are age forty and have been on a date with only a few guys he's going to find that a positive thing: By the age of forty it is assumed that a person of either gender will have had multiple partners since the age of eighteen or so. And if he's a keeper he will tell you that he has no concern for the past, only for the present and possibly the future.
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 20 hours ago
  • Why is these days that it seems like less than half of the population wants marriage and kids?

    Best answer: Cost of living has gone way up even if your well off or rich it's expensive to have kids, marriage is a risky money pit if your wife cheats on you with some Arabian or Mexican guy she met on a site like Ashley Madison it's going to cost you big you have to pay the lawyers for court ($600-$850 an hour) pay... show more
    Best answer: Cost of living has gone way up even if your well off or rich it's expensive to have kids,
    marriage is a risky money pit if your wife cheats on you with some Arabian or Mexican guy she met on a site like Ashley Madison it's going to cost you big you have to pay the lawyers for court ($600-$850 an hour) pay her child support if you have kids pay for an apartment if you move out plus food, bills, gas for car it doesn't end.

    Who needs that kind of stress in their life? happy being a single myself!
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 23 hours ago
  • Why do the men I date always try to tear me down?

    Out of the few relationships I've been in, all the men have shared one common denominator: they've all been abusive. Either mentally, emotionally or physically. I've been in relationships where men told me I was ugly but that that's why they were with me because they were tired of the pretty girls... show more
    Out of the few relationships I've been in, all the men have shared one common denominator: they've all been abusive. Either mentally, emotionally or physically. I've been in relationships where men told me I was ugly but that that's why they were with me because they were tired of the pretty girls stuck up ways. I've been told that I was ugly by a few men I've dated then they'd express that for some reason they "settled" for me. I've been told that no opinion of mine/nothing I wanted mattered and all I was to do is "cook, clean and get ******". I've been told that I can't/won't be anything in life and that I'd never accomplish anything, not even something as realistic as going to college. I've been slapped, choked, slammed, been dragged by my hair, raped. And of course, I've said nothing. Because internally I was blaming myself and I didn't want to hear anyone else's ridicule. Men I've dated dated have threatened my life. One even put a gun to my head in a heated argument, I thought I was going to die. Men I've dated have made me feel like less than nothing. Made me feel like my mind and emotions we're not of importance, only my body or what I could possibly do for them financially. These situations have made me question my existence. And just when I think I found a man who's different or "the one", he ends up being the same type of guy. What am I doing wrong here? What am I exuding? I feel like in order to stop this I need to just stop dating men period.
    6 answers · Singles & Dating · 19 hours ago
  • Boyfriend on drugs?

    my boyfriend of one year is 16, he moved to a really bad part of town a few months ago and has a really bad friend group. his dad has been doing drugs his whole life and now is getting my boyfriend into them as well. his dad is buying them every night and does them with my boyfriend. they try something different... show more
    my boyfriend of one year is 16, he moved to a really bad part of town a few months ago and has a really bad friend group. his dad has been doing drugs his whole life and now is getting my boyfriend into them as well. his dad is buying them every night and does them with my boyfriend. they try something different every night. first it was weed and alcohol and then ecstasy, molly, acid and shrooms. his dad does cocaine in front of him as well. my boyfriend doesn’t see anything wrong with doing the drugs for fun. but when he does them with his dad and all his friends he’s a total different person. his mom won’t take custody and he won’t leave his dad. he is now dealing drugs as well and has gotten hurt a few times and still won’t realize what he’s doing is wrong. if i try to get him away from that house and from his dad he gets mad. he was never like that before he moved to this town. now he’s never without his friends and never not high or on some kind of drugs. idk what to do because he won’t realize what he’s doing but it’s hurting him and our relationship and i’m scared. please give me suggestions.
    31 answers · Family · 3 days ago
  • Bride says thank you for coming to the wedding, but I did not attend. Should I ignore or say something?

    My nephew, who I'm not very close to and who lives in southern California, just got married several months ago. I was not able to attend the out-of-town wedding. A month after the wedding, I sent the couple a wedding card and enclosed a check with a sizable amount. I also stated on the card that I was sorry for... show more
    My nephew, who I'm not very close to and who lives in southern California, just got married several months ago. I was not able to attend the out-of-town wedding. A month after the wedding, I sent the couple a wedding card and enclosed a check with a sizable amount. I also stated on the card that I was sorry for not being able to come to the wedding.and sending a check to help start their future. A few weeks later, I got a thank you card written by the bride stating, "Thank you for coming to our wedding and for the gift." Obviously, I did not attend the wedding hence the mailed check. I feel they did not read the sentiment on the card and just saw the fat check. They've recently moved 2 hours away and have invited for a housewarming party. Should I just let this slide or say something at the upcoming get-together?
    21 answers · Weddings · 2 days ago
  • First time sex?

    Best answer: If he is expecting a virgin then be a virgin and do not try to impress him. Let him be the one that teaches you and impresses you and he will put you in the positions he likes. You will find out what you like best because you do not know yet and if you both like different things then you can compromise next time... show more
    Best answer: If he is expecting a virgin then be a virgin and do not try to impress him. Let him be the one that teaches you and impresses you and he will put you in the positions he likes. You will find out what you like best because you do not know yet and if you both like different things then you can compromise next time you do this for him him and he will do something in return that you like as it cannot just all be for one person as it never lasts that way or if it does go on that way one person will always feel resentful or cheated out of their enjoyment of it. So just let him be your guide the first time.
    12 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • My husband won't do things i want to do?

    I do everything he wants to make him happy. Cook for him, bake, go see movies he wants to see, watch TV shows he wants to watch. IT doesn't bother me because I love him and enjoy doing things to make him happy. I will point out the positives in my husband, before the negatives. He is hardworking, will do... show more
    I do everything he wants to make him happy. Cook for him, bake, go see movies he wants to see, watch TV shows he wants to watch. IT doesn't bother me because I love him and enjoy doing things to make him happy. I will point out the positives in my husband, before the negatives. He is hardworking, will do anything to provide and we are looking to start a family soon. Weve been married only a few months so far. Can be loving and cuddly at times ( when he's in the mood). Very loyal, never cheated and i have faith he would never. However, he is very selfish when it comes to doing things i want to do. I am a star wars fan, and the new movie came out this weekend. I want to go see it and he refuses to go see it with me. He says he hates star wars and can't sit through it. I never ask him to do much that i want , but whenever its something he doesn't want to do I'm shot down. He's like going with another friend or ask you're dad. all my friends are recently married with little kids, its hard for me to make plans with them to see a movie, and most aren't into star wars like me. Also, when we were in italy for our honeymoon , i wanted to do go see the coliseum while we were in Rome and he didn't want to , so we argued over that. I said we have to , were in Rome, and he's like no i hate crowds, finally he gave in, but was cranky the whole time. I just feel he should give in more , as i would for him , and do some things to make me happy.
    14 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 16 hours ago
  • Can I meet women by walking my cat on a leash in the park or will they find it creepy?

    All my friends with dogs take them out for walks and they get a lot of attention from women. I don't have a dog, but I have a cat. He's pretty good natured and can be walked on a leash. What do you think?
    All my friends with dogs take them out for walks and they get a lot of attention from women. I don't have a dog, but I have a cat. He's pretty good natured and can be walked on a leash. What do you think?
    18 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • My wife cheated on me, I am struggling to forgive her. What should I do ?

    My wife and I have been married for 4 years. 7 months ago she miscarried and gave birth to a stillborn I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and I was hurting to. 3 weeks later I had to go away on business and whilst I was away she slept with a man that we know through friends of ours. She told me about 3... show more
    My wife and I have been married for 4 years. 7 months ago she miscarried and gave birth to a stillborn I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and I was hurting to. 3 weeks later I had to go away on business and whilst I was away she slept with a man that we know through friends of ours. She told me about 3 months ago and now we are distant and I told her I forgive her because I understand why she did it if she was grieving, but I haven't really forgiven her. I have tried my best but I keep picturing her with another man. Sometimes when we argue I bring it up because I want to hurt her. My wife wants to try for another baby but I am not convinced that I want to because she is still grieving a bit and I haven't forgiven her. What should I do? So I can forgive her. How can I tell her I don't want to try for another baby yet? Am I being unfair?
    14 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 2 days ago
  • Would you allow your daughter to go to a co educational swimming session in gym class in middle/high school?

    or would you protest and be against it?
    or would you protest and be against it?
    23 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Husband will not forget and move from swinging incident, its been 4 months no sex not intimacy and he sleeps in guest room.?

    We have been married 24 years I am 46 he is 49. Our sex life had become less exciting after all these years. So when a friend of mine mentioned that they were into swinging for the last 5 years and how it revitalized there sex life it sound like just the thing. Did not go for it immediately spoke with her offer a... show more
    We have been married 24 years I am 46 he is 49. Our sex life had become less exciting after all these years. So when a friend of mine mentioned that they were into swinging for the last 5 years and how it revitalized there sex life it sound like just the thing. Did not go for it immediately spoke with her offer a few months about it and decided to bring it up to my husband. He was against it but over another couple months got him to at least agree to attend a party my friend was having. Well one thing led to another at that party and I thought my husband was onboard so while he was chatting with another women and look like they might be heading off to have sex I went off with another gentlemen. Well I had misread he was just being nice and when had not seen him or women he was talking to figure they had retired to a room. But what actually had happened is he had went to bathroom. Once he came back and started looking for me and found me I was in the middle of having sex with two guys and another women. He blew up and left before I could even get dressed to catch him. Since than he has moved into guest room. I told him it was mistake explained my thought process and apologized. Am at wits end do not have clue how to fix this. We still have 2 kids at home 16 and 12 year old. They know something is not right obviously.
    13 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 17 hours ago
  • Should I be okay with my boyfriend watching porn?

    My boyfriend follows lots of lewd cosplay girls on Instagram/twitter and some cam girls/pornstars. He always likes lewd and nude pictures/videos and I'm pretty sure is probably subscribed to some pornsites and lewd cosplayers on patreon. I sometimes ask him if I could go on his phone or computer and he gets... show more
    My boyfriend follows lots of lewd cosplay girls on Instagram/twitter and some cam girls/pornstars. He always likes lewd and nude pictures/videos and I'm pretty sure is probably subscribed to some pornsites and lewd cosplayers on patreon. I sometimes ask him if I could go on his phone or computer and he gets defensive and tells me no. This honestly makes me feel really uncomfortable and I don't know if I should say something?
    11 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • How do i find a husband?

    alright i know this sounds weird kinda but i'm a 18 year old girl who dropped out of high school a couple years ago to hang out with friends (stupid i know) but now i realize that's the wrong choice and i want to change my life around because i think i might become like a drug addict (only smoked weed so... show more
    alright i know this sounds weird kinda but i'm a 18 year old girl who dropped out of high school a couple years ago to hang out with friends (stupid i know) but now i realize that's the wrong choice and i want to change my life around because i think i might become like a drug addict (only smoked weed so far but my friends done more) or sex worker. i got a job at walmart but i quit because i got bullied by my manager, she always made me lift heavy things even though i am 4'11 and about 80 pounds, and when people tried to help she told them i had to learn what is feels like... please help i don't wanna be a sex worker or drug addict
    16 answers · Weddings · 1 day ago
  • I found out my husband had been cheating on me with a women from church that I knew. Should I tell her hisband what she did?

    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why... show more
    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why he cheated and trying to fix the problems, you don’t have the energy to add more fuel to the fire. Concentrate on your selves for now atleast
    50 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 5 days ago
  • People at school are making fun of my last name "porn"?

    I'm Thai, and some Thais have the word "porn" in their last name. For us, it means a blessing, but of course, not in English. My last name is "Wanthaporn." And it sounds exactly like, "Want the porn." I am extremely embarrassed by it. Everyone in class laughs when they hear it. And... show more
    I'm Thai, and some Thais have the word "porn" in their last name. For us, it means a blessing, but of course, not in English. My last name is "Wanthaporn." And it sounds exactly like, "Want the porn." I am extremely embarrassed by it. Everyone in class laughs when they hear it. And it's even worse when we're having a ceremony or when they call my name on the school intercom. Some people even only call me that and not my first name to make fun of me. I'm a girl.
    11 answers · Friends · 7 hours ago
  • Am I weird?

    Best answer: It sounds like you live your life completely by fear, and the more you live that way, you will continue to miss out on opportunities and relationships. If you have social anxiety and if you're quiet most of the time, then people will believe you don't want to be bothered or that you won't contribute... show more
    Best answer: It sounds like you live your life completely by fear, and the more you live that way, you will continue to miss out on opportunities and relationships.

    If you have social anxiety and if you're quiet most of the time, then people will believe you don't want to be bothered or that you won't contribute much to a relationship or when socializing. I believe you are very desirable to a lot of people, but you appear as though you're anti-social and that will have people misunderstanding you. I know social anxiety sucks and it's really tricky to getting over it, but you have to sit yourself down and ask what is it you're so terrified of? Do you feel like you sound weird if you speak? Do you think you look funny? Do you stutter? Are you unable to hold eye contact? Sort out the possibilities. Perhaps go see a doctor about it.

    Not having a boyfriend is not bad at all. You don't have to have one, and having one doesn't necessarily make you better. I honestly think girls should wait a lot longer to be dating because girls your age and younger are way more likely to be hurt, used, and are very naïve to fall for a lot of things. Boys your age are not looking to love a girl; they're looking to make out or have sex with her and then brag about it with their buddies. So, you not dating is probably safest for you, especially when your self-esteem is way too fragile. You wouldn't have a backbone strong enough to defend yourself and know how to read a person right. You're only sixteen. You have your whole life to find love.

    Take a selfie then. What's stopping you? Not that they're important. This is perhaps the first step in getting to know you. Start a diary through Microsoft Word Office or whatever program you have related to it. Post your pictures on there and just start writing about yourself, how your day went, who or what made you feel a certain way, etc. I've been writing about my life since I was 16 (31 years old now). I have documents and documents about each chapter of my life and have gone back to see how immature I was, but how far I've come. Record videos of yourself. It's going to be painful to look back on. I remember doing that for myself and I hated how my lips moved or I didn't realize how bigger I was. But I got to know myself.

    If social media gives you anxiety, don't have one. Simple as that. You're likely a lot safer from saying something stupid and then posting it for all to see. Plus your life is more private. Things like photos and drama you put on social media run the risk of remaining on the internet forever. People still don't realize that even today.

    How are younger people than you more successful? Are they running officers? Businesses of their own? Have lots of money they generated? They are still very much depended on an adult. Instead of comparing yourself to people, you should focus more on yourself, like hobbies, or what you want to do with your life.

    You've never or smoke or done alcohol? Consider yourself a SMART person. I don't get people who even choose to smoke for the first time/. I mean, why? What good enough reason is there to destroy the only body you have? Your mom is wrong. I often believe teenage years are a bit overrated. That isn't the time to go out and party and be wild because at those ages you're most vulnerable and extremely immature.

    Follow your dreams. If you want to be an actress, then study it, do research on it. Join clubs or organizations at school or in your city that cater that field. You don't have to look a certain way to be an actress. You're fat and ugly, you say? If you're overweight, do something about it. It won't go away unless you eat right and exercise. But honestly, even if you're overweight, your constant negativity about yourself is so exhausting. it is no wonder you feel the way you do. You are what you believe. You need to start thinking better of yourself.
    5 answers · Friends · 1 day ago