In my view, and i'm a woman, i see that women have some idea that their entire world will change when they get married and it will be like living some sort of fantasy. Well, this is not the case, life goes on as usual. And a lot of women DO have the idea they want to get married, and this is not a bad thing...
Best answer: In my view, and i'm a woman, i see that women have some idea that their entire world will change when they get married and it will be like living some sort of fantasy. Well, this is not the case, life goes on as usual. And a lot of women DO have the idea they want to get married, and this is not a bad thing whatsoever.
Men, on the other hand, have to feel financially prepared, of course, but more importantly for the man, he has to feel EMOTIONALLY prepared for marriage. This is an entirely different ball of wax than how most women think. And if a man isn't ready, he's not. I'd never ask my boyfriend (of 7 years) to marry me because i don't really think it's the best of plans to try to urge a male to get married. It's just not a good idea, and most men are not predisposed to being pressured -- this is how they see it when a woman keeps asking about marriage.
Not sure what you're going to think about if you spend time apart, except for the fact that you could truly consider laying off the marriage pressure and focus on something else. There you two are, together for quite sometime, considering getting a house together (which he obviously has agreed to, so this is a HUGE commitment for a man and maybe the first step toward making a future, marriage commitment when he doesn't feel pressured).
Along with all of this, two people need to be on the same page when it comes to getting married. He's not. I'd leave it alone, and i would toss the ball into his court.
As far as a prenuptial agreement goes before marriage, they are fine and well, but they are all about assets held by a person BEFORE marriage to protect investments.... prenuptial agreements are not about assets gained after marriage. Whatever is gained during a marriage is mutual property. It's just the way it is in most states, that i know of. I'd just play dumb about this, if he has no clue what a prenuptial agreement is all about. I guess he will find out sooner or later, if he doesn't know now.
I don't think you're "compromising"... the two of you simply do not want the same thing at this moment in time. Not sure why you can't just be happy with things the way they are. If you buy the house together, he's making a huge commitment already (again, and i said this before). Just give him time and space, focus on other things - such as your relationship as it is right now. Right now, i don't see that you have any major problems.
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