• What should I do about my dad (read below)?

    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday? I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then... show more
    Best answer: Why are the contractors expecting to be paid for work that they should have completed on Thursday, but have not completed by EOB Friday?

    I agree that it is wrong for him to set an expectation, and then not keep it - but it was also wrong for the contractors to set up an expectation (done by EOB Thursday) and then not keep it (still not done by EOB Friday)


    But two wrongs do not make a right.

    There were much better ways to deal with this. you need to talk to your dad and say that you understand why he did this, he is just returning the behavior that he is getting, but point out to him that there were batter ways o deal with this, that he needs to keep his contractors reasonably happy.


    As for the firing of the employee - he is firing someone for telling the truth. It is an inconvenient truth, but the truth never the less.


    Ask him if he would like to be put in that position? If he did not want the chance that this employee would "rat" on him (not to the contractors, just to his family!) then he should not have involved him in this lie.


    The problem here is that until he sees that he handles the contractor situation badly, he will not understand the dilemma he put his employee under, and until he understand that dilemma he can not empathize with the employee.


    So you need to work on getting him to understand that the bad behavior of the contractors does not justify his bad behavior. You have seen enough of the "reasoning" here to be able to recognize the different fallacies in his excuses, and know how to counter them. Just as long as you can keep it calm and try to not let it get adversarial.


    Once you have that, they you can work on getting him to understand the bad position he put himself in, and the huge dilemma e put his employee in.


    Once he sees that you need to make it clear that he needs to apologize to the employee, and offer to rehire them. Hopefully this behavior is sufficiently far from the normal that they will want to come back.
    14 answers · 20 hours ago
  • Will he accept my apology?

    I am a 27 year old woman whose a med student from India, who is studying in the US. I am 6'3 240 pounds, There is this handsome guy blonde personal trainer at the university gym. He is 22 blonde 5'10 180 pounds all muscle. I know that he’s into casual sex and has hooked up with many women at the... show more
    I am a 27 year old woman whose a med student from India, who is studying in the US. I am 6'3 240 pounds, There is this handsome guy blonde personal trainer at the university gym. He is 22 blonde 5'10 180 pounds all muscle. I know that he’s into casual sex and has hooked up with many women at the university. I signed up for personal training sessions with him so I could spend time with him and get physical. I came to the first personal training session in long dress and make up, to impress him. During the personal training session I subtly felt his muscles and tried rubbing my breast on him. He wasn’t receptive so I decided to be more direct. After the session I went to the cafe, and sat right next to him. I started chatting with him and put my arm around his shoulder and my hand near his crotch and said. “You are a very handsome man I would love to have sex with you.” He told me “it’s not going to happen.” I always thought American men were horny and would sleep with any woman. I called him out for sleeping with other women at the gym, who were petite and white. said that he is shallow for not having sex with a brown woman whose taller than him. I was told to leave the gym and not return. If I apologize to him, take him out to dinner and buy a few drinks he might reconsider and want to have sex with me. I just want to have sex with him.
    11 answers · 2 days ago
  • What are you known for in your family ?

    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    I am known for throwing elaborate dinner parties especially around fall.
    24 answers · 5 days ago
  • Anyone stayed with someone who was wrong for them because they were literally the only person they have In their life ?

    Just wondering how it ended . I just keep thinking if I leave I go back to that feeling that if I got in a car accident no one would even know I was gone . Jane doe . He’s emotional abusive even so much he got Me fired, threatens to kill me etc. why can’t I just have one friend or family to get away from this
    Just wondering how it ended . I just keep thinking if I leave I go back to that feeling that if I got in a car accident no one would even know I was gone . Jane doe . He’s emotional abusive even so much he got Me fired, threatens to kill me etc. why can’t I just have one friend or family to get away from this
    6 answers · 10 hours ago
  • Extremely sad song recommendations for breakup?

    So I just want some songs to cry my eyes out for. I'm just in that depressed mood you know? The more depressing the better! Thanks!
    So I just want some songs to cry my eyes out for. I'm just in that depressed mood you know? The more depressing the better! Thanks!
    8 answers · 1 day ago
  • How do I help my boyfriend get through the death of his wife and child?

    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the... show more
    His wife and daughter died in a wreck 20 years ago. He still struggles with it everyday. To the point where he left one Friday and I did not hear from him for two days. He lied about where he was and what he was doing and after almost a week he finally told me the truth. It was Thier anniversary and he went to the spot he proposed and Thier grave and fished in between. I was so worried about him. I don’t know if something bad had happened. He lied and said he was offshore fishing. I knew he was lying and I already thought it had something to do with them. When he finally came home after 5 days and the truth...I didn’t complain. I was glad he came back and was ok. I listened and hugged him. It’s been two weeks since he disappeared. I was mad because I didn’t know where he was and if he was ok. I told him not to be ashamed and never forget them. Since then things have been rocky. He left again last night and didn’t come back. Won’t answer anyones calls or text.he keeps saying he wants to be here but I won’t stop reminding him of his lie. Which reminds him of the whole weekend. What I’m trying to figure out is what am I suppose to do or say? Nothing? Just let him come and go as he pleases because of why? It does not seem fair to me to wonder where he is. And I don’t think he should put me in that spot no matter where he is still going through. Am I wrong? I ask myself is he using this to go do whatever. I would hope not. But here I sit. Alone. Again.
    5 answers · 8 hours ago
  • What are the favorite drugs of the Trump family?

    Best answer: It’s a good point you make. The amphetamine diet pills that he has been on for years are known to cause brain damage. That and his family history of Alzheimer’s explains a lot of his current dementia symptoms, like the lack of focus and inability to stay “on point”, perseveration, etc
    Best answer: It’s a good point you make. The amphetamine diet pills that he has been on for years are known to cause brain damage. That and his family history of Alzheimer’s explains a lot of his current dementia symptoms, like the lack of focus and inability to stay “on point”, perseveration, etc
    12 answers · 4 days ago
  • How can I tell my fiance's friend's fiance she insulted me just to get a sale, without coming off as if I don't want to talk to her anymore?

    I've known this group for 11 years. Both me and my fiance have tried talking to this girl multiple times throughout. If it's not interesting topics, like celeb stuff, she walks away. Her & her future husband are normally use to being the leader of the group. Since we've moved 5 yrs ago, the group... show more
    I've known this group for 11 years. Both me and my fiance have tried talking to this girl multiple times throughout. If it's not interesting topics, like celeb stuff, she walks away. Her & her future husband are normally use to being the leader of the group. Since we've moved 5 yrs ago, the group hasn't talked as they normally would have...except ever since the couple took this seminar. They've only been talking to all us again because of the program, despite my prior attempts to reach out. She recently told my fiance how lazy he was and how he needs this $3K+ program because , and her words, "[your] clearly not enough motivation for him." I know I can't get mad because this is coming from a girl who has cheated on her spouse and obviously needs this program. They canceled their wedding a month b4 but still went on their honeymoon & their bachelorette/bachelor parties (wasn't invited or told). For her engagement party, I flew in without a "Hi", "Thanks" or "How've you been?" the whole night. We celebrated the Holidays after our engagement & wanted to celebrate with friends by giving them hand-made gifts while they locked themselves in 2 rooms among 33 people just to do blow. She made out with 2 guys, only admitting it when she was going to get upset that he had a stripper's number in his phone; That doesn't include the 3rd guy when he was studying abroad. She told me my job as a woman was to convince the man to do what is necessary & I'd be the reason for his regret.
    12 answers · 4 days ago
  • Boyfriend didn’t stand up for me and his son.?

    Best answer: Your boyfriend is a lousy dad because he put his roommate and a cat ahead of his child. Plus he's narcisstic, which again means he'll always put the child second, third, fourth, or lower, and paranoid, which means he may blame the child for his own fears. There's no way he'd be granted custody. And... show more
    Best answer: Your boyfriend is a lousy dad because he put his roommate and a cat ahead of his child. Plus he's narcisstic, which again means he'll always put the child second, third, fourth, or lower, and paranoid, which means he may blame the child for his own fears. There's no way he'd be granted custody. And you're absolutely right not to allow him to be alone with the child.

    You had every right to ask the roommate to keep his cat out of the room you and your child shared. But I suspect your boyfriend often left the door open, allowing the cat to slip in. He sure didn't care about the damage the cat did.

    Think about all his reactions and you come to this conclusion: Your boyfriend doesn't really care about your or his child. He's most interested in himself first and in his roommate second. You and the child are no more important than third (and maybe not even ranked that high in his life). Consider this your chance at a new life.

    Is your boyfriend even your child's legal father? If he didn't sign the birth certificate, no, he is not and has no legal rights. Did a court order a DNA test and declare him the father? If no, again, he is not your child's legal father and has no legal rights. YOU are the sole legal parent.

    I think he's using the threats of calling ACS and going to court to try and control you. A narcisstic guy doesn't like it when a woman tells him he can't do something. If he really does file a court case, then go to court and tell the judge all about all your experiences with him, including all the times he's been selfish, narcisstic, paranoid, and uncaring about protecting the baby. And get yourself a lawyer to help you.
    13 answers · 4 days ago
  • What are you doing right now?

    8 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I break up with him?

    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want. Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say. Sorry to say this but id challenge... show more
    Best answer: It sounds from what you have put that he is stringing you along so you have to ask yourself if this is what you want.
    Whilst marriage is not everything these days, if someone proposes to you without a ring they were either drunk at the time or were just seeing what you would say.
    Sorry to say this but id challenge this man and see why he wont make it official and go from there. Do it in a tactful way so as not to cause an argument but try to get it addressed for your own minds sake.
    5 answers · 7 hours ago
  • What makes a man feel loved?

    My bf mentioned he doesn't get that lovey feeling from me sometimes and I want to find new ways to express love to him. What are little things your gf/wife does that makes you feel loved and important? Small insignificant things and bigger things too
    My bf mentioned he doesn't get that lovey feeling from me sometimes and I want to find new ways to express love to him. What are little things your gf/wife does that makes you feel loved and important? Small insignificant things and bigger things too
    5 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Ladies, Is six inches big or average?

    Best answer: Who cares? Why are so many of you dudes worried about the size of your d*cks?! You can have a 10 incher and have no clue how to use it or have a 4 incher and can drive a woman wild. It's not the size, it's how you use it and how well you can please your partner with more than just what's in your pants.
    Best answer: Who cares? Why are so many of you dudes worried about the size of your d*cks?! You can have a 10 incher and have no clue how to use it or have a 4 incher and can drive a woman wild. It's not the size, it's how you use it and how well you can please your partner with more than just what's in your pants.
    22 answers · 1 week ago
  • Women be honest with yourselves on this question, okay?

    What kind of tantrums and fits do you give to guys when they pretty much see you only as a friend? I am asking this question because I want to know I never see this question asked. Time the script gets flipped. Nothing to lose just answer the question. Thank you
    What kind of tantrums and fits do you give to guys when they pretty much see you only as a friend? I am asking this question because I want to know I never see this question asked. Time the script gets flipped. Nothing to lose just answer the question. Thank you
    9 answers · 4 days ago
  • Should you let someone know you're thinking of them on the 1 month's anniversary of their loved one's passing?

    Or could it instead be not such a good idea in case it is a reminder?
    Or could it instead be not such a good idea in case it is a reminder?
    7 answers · 3 days ago
  • Why would a married man keep in touch with a woman he had a one night stand with?

    Best answer: he needs a side chick
    Best answer: he needs a side chick
    19 answers · 7 days ago
  • My friend has a strange situation. Married with kids and has fallen for a good looking younger guy. He is a coworker. What to do?

    She knew him from past 4 years but this feeling is recent, since past 5 months.Should she go ahead and explore as harmless fun or just forget everything. She says its definitely not lust...companionship may be she needs. The guy is engaged to get married.He never gave her any signals neither did she. It happened... show more
    She knew him from past 4 years but this feeling is recent, since past 5 months.Should she go ahead and explore as harmless fun or just forget everything. She says its definitely not lust...companionship may be she needs. The guy is engaged to get married.He never gave her any signals neither did she. It happened all of a sudden. ..is it possible. What should she do? Indian scenario.
    8 answers · 4 days ago