• Should I apologize to Muslim woman in my community for my Dads racism?

    My Dad was driving me to school the other day when we passed the House is a Muslim woman new to the neighborhood. My father gave her a dirty look and said oh brother under his breath. He was in the car so she didn’t hear him. I was so ashamed of my Father at that moment . Should I apologize on behalf of my family... show more
    My Dad was driving me to school the other day when we passed the House is a Muslim woman new to the neighborhood. My father gave her a dirty look and said oh brother under his breath. He was in the car so she didn’t hear him. I was so ashamed of my Father at that moment . Should I apologize on behalf of my family to that poor Muslims woman
    23 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do people like to say everyone is equal?

    Best answer: people like to believe that is true--some people like to specify--everyone is "born equal" but that is not true either--when someone is born to 2 crack addicted parents they will never be equal-
    Best answer: people like to believe that is true--some people like to specify--everyone is "born equal" but that is not true either--when someone is born to 2 crack addicted parents they will never be equal-
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • Do you need perfect vision for a job?

    I don't mean jobs that require driving. I mean like working in an office or in front of a computer. I am nearsighted. I can see things that are close to me. But it is really bad. I cannot see things far away. If someone is standing 5 feet away from me, I wouldn't be able to tell if their eyes are looking at... show more
    I don't mean jobs that require driving. I mean like working in an office or in front of a computer. I am nearsighted. I can see things that are close to me. But it is really bad. I cannot see things far away. If someone is standing 5 feet away from me, I wouldn't be able to tell if their eyes are looking at me. Would this be a problem for a job? My boss or coworkers might be looking at me 5 feet away and smiling at me, and they might think I'm a snob because I didn't smile back.
    12 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Is it ever okay to tell someone you're staring because they looked like a "past relative" ?

    Like a relative that died. I sometimes see ladies that look like my late grandmother and I cant help but stare. But if they catch me i wouldn't know what to say. Would it be rude to say they look like a late relative of mine?
    Like a relative that died. I sometimes see ladies that look like my late grandmother and I cant help but stare. But if they catch me i wouldn't know what to say. Would it be rude to say they look like a late relative of mine?
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Would it be rude for an employee to say this to an angry customer?

    Best answer: Yes, it is. It may also get you fired. Why? Because you are clearly throwing gas on the fire. You aren't saying anything to diffuse the situation but instead are invalidating the customer's emotional state and their complaint. You are trivializing them and trying to make them seem small and petty for... show more
    Best answer: Yes, it is. It may also get you fired. Why? Because you are clearly throwing gas on the fire. You aren't saying anything to diffuse the situation but instead are invalidating the customer's emotional state and their complaint. You are trivializing them and trying to make them seem small and petty for their reaction.

    What's more, saying that is profoundly stupid, a completely illogical argument. How people usually find you has absolutely nothing to do with the situation at hand, making your assertion argumentatively what is called a "straw man." A "straw man" is a logically fallacious and distracting argument one puts forward that one can easily win and thus make it seem one has won the other argument that is actually being argued. Since the other person can't disprove how other people usually find you because they have no basis to argue against that, you easily win that argument, and in so doing, you are trying to translate that win into making it seem like you've won the unrelated but actual argument that is at hand when, in actuality, how people usually find you has absolutely nothing to do with the argument at hand.

    Even if they're calling you "rude," if that's the argument, the fact that 20 other people didn't think you were rude to them yesterday or the day before or even earlier today doesn't mean you're not being rude now. Rather, since proof is in the pudding, this mouthiness, this sass you're giving them, actually proves their point that you are being rude and anything but likeable and are giving that customer no reason at all to be happy to see you.

    You are not at work for your own emotional satisfaction. You are at work to serve the customer in front of you right now and create the most positive experience you can for that customer so that they become more likely to come back and become a regular customer. Saying to an angry customer, "Gee that's odd, most of the customers really like me a lot and are usually happy to see me," is doing the EXACT OPPOSITE of your job, what your employer is paying you to do. Your job is to diffuse that anger and turn it into a positive experience, not rebuff it with a bunch of lip.
    20 answers · 2 days ago
  • Is this offensive?

    I’m 6 months in a new job at a insurance company still getting to know people. I live in Canada now but I’m British. I was having a discussion with a colleague and I mentioned the phrase “cheeky”, the person immediately said they didn’t like that phrase and it was really British. I just laughed it off. As a new... show more
    I’m 6 months in a new job at a insurance company still getting to know people. I live in Canada now but I’m British. I was having a discussion with a colleague and I mentioned the phrase “cheeky”, the person immediately said they didn’t like that phrase and it was really British. I just laughed it off. As a new person I don’t want to create rifts in a new office. Is this offensive or am I just looking too much into it? Should I of said something ?
    13 answers · 2 days ago
  • If I tell a cashier to keep the change, is it technically hers or does she have to put in back in the register. Some gas places also have?

    that tray for loose coins. However sometimes they just put it in the tip jar? So I know it's a weird question but I never worked register
    that tray for loose coins. However sometimes they just put it in the tip jar? So I know it's a weird question but I never worked register
    15 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why is there such a stigma against getting help from one's parents into adulthood?

    Best answer: Jealousy, people are butt hurt because not everyone's parents help them. Some parents that have money wish to spend it on their children while they are alive rather than horde it and have the children spend it after they are gone. your parents love you as they are the former and want to see you enjoy... show more
    Best answer: Jealousy, people are butt hurt because not everyone's parents help them. Some parents that have money wish to spend it on their children while they are alive rather than horde it and have the children spend it after they are gone. your parents love you as they are the former and want to see you enjoy yourself. Don't let others get you down.
    12 answers · 4 days ago
  • Did I creep her out?

    Best answer: You are her tutor, not her psychologist or friend. Yes, you did overstep your bounds by asking personal questions. You should exercise more social grace and stop prying in your student's personal life. I suppose you could have said something less intrusive, like "Oh, I see you are wearing an... show more
    Best answer: You are her tutor, not her psychologist or friend. Yes, you did overstep your bounds by asking personal questions. You should exercise more social grace and stop prying in your student's personal life.

    I suppose you could have said something less intrusive, like "Oh, I see you are wearing an engagement ring. Congratulations!" Then, if she wanted to add to that topic of conversation, the ball would have been in her court to share more details, or not.

    But, to keep a tutor/student relationship professional, you really should not be asking her any questions about her personal life. You are there to TEACH, not to make buddies with the students.
    19 answers · 3 days ago
  • Baby gift giving etiquette - Am I out of line?

    My sister in law is pregnant. The dad took off, so she gets no help from him, and her kids are teenagers, so she's starting all over.I found a great deal on a travel system for her, asked if she liked it, she said she did, and I bought it for her while it was half price. She was happy and thanked me, but... show more
    My sister in law is pregnant. The dad took off, so she gets no help from him, and her kids are teenagers, so she's starting all over.I found a great deal on a travel system for her, asked if she liked it, she said she did, and I bought it for her while it was half price. She was happy and thanked me, but asked me 12 hours later if I could cancel my order because her coworkers said they had planned to get her a travel system and she didn't want to hurt their feelings. Luckily, I was able to cancel the order, but now I'm offended and my feelings are hurt. My husband said she probably just wanted to pick out her own stuff because she has a shopping addiction. I feel as though she didn't appreciate the gift in the first place. Am I overreacting, or are my feelings reasonable?
    19 answers · 4 days ago
  • Is it wrong to tell ?

    If you overheard someone talking about your friend or someone you know would you let them know that they were being talked about?
    If you overheard someone talking about your friend or someone you know would you let them know that they were being talked about?
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • Supervisor is too cocky?

    I work at a dollar store, and at the store, theres sales associates (me), supervisors, and managers. One of the supervisors has a really big ego. She feels that she is the best, and talks sh*t about all the other employees. Not only that, but she keeps us late. For example, we closed at 6 one day, so our shifts... show more
    I work at a dollar store, and at the store, theres sales associates (me), supervisors, and managers. One of the supervisors has a really big ego. She feels that she is the best, and talks sh*t about all the other employees. Not only that, but she keeps us late. For example, we closed at 6 one day, so our shifts went until 6:30. But she kept me until almost 8. I told her that it was getting late, but she ignored me. I would talk to my manager about this but i feel like ill just be complaining about someone, because work gets done while shes working. So it would be more about our happiness when working with her instead of work not getting done (if that makes sense). Ive talked to other employees (including the other supervisors) about this, and they dont like her either. So what im wondering is, is this something i should talk to the manager about, or should i just talk to her about this? Or should i do something else?
    8 answers · 16 hours ago
  • Would you rather strangers (neighbors you don't really know, etc.) FAKE-smiled at you, just nodded, or didn't greet you at all?

    (Real smiles are not an option) This question is intended for residents of North America, where smiling is expected in many situations.
    (Real smiles are not an option) This question is intended for residents of North America, where smiling is expected in many situations.
    6 answers · 8 hours ago
  • Is racism inherently bad?

    Best answer: It is certainly true that certain races are better at certain things than other races, it is what it is. The problem with racism is when races co-mingle in society and people "assume" certain things based solely on your race that prevents you from having equal opportunities. Also a race is not... show more
    Best answer: It is certainly true that certain races are better at certain things than other races, it is what it is. The problem with racism is when races co-mingle in society and people "assume" certain things based solely on your race that prevents you from having equal opportunities. Also a race is not "better" across the board, meaning one race may have better athletic ability and another better IQ. Also these measurements are on average, meaning not everyone of that race will necessarily fit that metric. A blind eye should be used when it comes to race where the qualifications of the individual should be used. Unfortunately there is racism when a higher qualified individual is denied opportunity because race and gender quotas are not met. It is not fair to "lower" the standards to allow certain races to gain entry. Liberals inherently become racists in their attempt to stop racism.
    9 answers · 2 days ago
  • Would you be mad about this tipping situation?

    I just went to NYC with my friend. She never tipped the taxi drivers, so I put in extra money for a higher tip since she wasn't contributing, and I also did the same for the hotel worker who carried our bags up the stairs. When we went out to eat, she would only tip $2 in NYC. So I had to add more money to my... show more
    I just went to NYC with my friend. She never tipped the taxi drivers, so I put in extra money for a higher tip since she wasn't contributing, and I also did the same for the hotel worker who carried our bags up the stairs. When we went out to eat, she would only tip $2 in NYC. So I had to add more money to my tip in order for us to be decent customers. I know its her choice on how much to give but I feel bad for the workers and I'm mad that I have to pay more.
    15 answers · 3 days ago