• Why do guys only want me for sex?

    I'm 20, & i'm about done dealing with boys. I don't ever want a bf because every guy that says he have a crush on me or wants to be my bf, he just wants to hook up with me. I had this happen to me when I was 14 & I was hurt by it. I lost my virginity to that guy and it took me awhile to get over... show more
    I'm 20, & i'm about done dealing with boys. I don't ever want a bf because every guy that says he have a crush on me or wants to be my bf, he just wants to hook up with me. I had this happen to me when I was 14 & I was hurt by it. I lost my virginity to that guy and it took me awhile to get over that & I don't understand why he did that to me? It seems like guys only see me for sex. Last week this guy said he likes me & we went out a couple of times. I'm not trying to be with him if that's what he thinks. He's cute but, that's not my focus anymore. Everyday he sits with me in the cafeteria & he always with me every chance he gets. He's really into me but I don't know if I want to take that chance. I've been single for 5 years now. Why are guys like this?
    159 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Should I consider having a baby under these circumstances?

    Im 20 yrs old soon to be 21. With a well paying job. 3 months from now I will further my career to a higher position . We have been together for 5 years and always have unprotected sex. My parents had me at a late age and feel as if they dont have alot of time left. My mom is 55 and my dad is 60. They really want... show more
    Im 20 yrs old soon to be 21. With a well paying job. 3 months from now I will further my career to a higher position . We have been together for 5 years and always have unprotected sex. My parents had me at a late age and feel as if they dont have alot of time left. My mom is 55 and my dad is 60. They really want grandchildren since im an only child. My boyfriends father is in the hopistal and they may consider dialysis for his kidney. Yesterday my mother went to visit his father and they both told us they want grandchildren before they die. Im not sure how to feel about this. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he really wants kids. It took my mom 11 years to have me and even then there was complications during the surgey. I know I want to have children but I didnt think it would be this soon. I was considering having them at 25 but what if my bofriends father doesnt make it that long? I will feel as if I kept my child from ever meeting his grandpa. Where I work they will be diapointed if I were to get pregnant since I wont be able to help with surgeries or radiographs. I also forgot to mention my boyfriend has never had a stable job. Hes going to be 22 next months and he has ADHD he has difficulty concentrating on tasks and cannot take criticism. He does not have a job right now but he tells me if I were to get pregnant he would do anything for us. He says it will be his modivation. I know its my decision but what would you do if you were in my shoes?
    64 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Does anyone look at you with tenderness in their eyes and face?

    Best answer: No there is no one who does
    Best answer: No there is no one who does
    55 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 days ago
  • My boyfriend treats me bad and i'm afraid that this could become an abusive relationship?

    Best answer: "Or even when he wants to have sex with me and I don't want to, he kinda of makes me do it and he don't even care if I'm crying or not! " This is rape. Ines, you need to walk away from this relationship. You don't deserve this. You ARE worth something. He is just making you seem... show more
    Best answer: "Or even when he wants to have sex with me and I don't want to, he kinda of makes me do it and he don't even care if I'm crying or not! "

    This is rape.

    Ines, you need to walk away from this relationship. You don't deserve this. You ARE worth something. He is just making you seem like you aren't so you'll stay with him. He IS an abuser already. Maybe he isn't physically abusing you, but emotionally he is and that's just a terrible. Walk away from him. Do not allow him to control you anymore. What he does to you is NOT love. Period. You know this. Being single is a LOT better than walking around on eggshells with a unpredictable person who randomly acts out...
    15 answers · Singles & Dating · 16 hours ago
  • I get turned on by the thought of having sex with strangers and not knowing someone's identity. Does anyone else feel like this?

    I'm a 17 year old girl and I don't know if it's a fetish or just an interest but I also don't like it if an older guy wears a mask and does things to me
    I'm a 17 year old girl and I don't know if it's a fetish or just an interest but I also don't like it if an older guy wears a mask and does things to me
    49 answers · Singles & Dating · 3 days ago
  • Can I tell by the smell of my husbands farts if he has been cheating?

    This sounds silly.. But my hubby has always had the same smelling fart for years and the whole family know as he always blames the kids of the dog, but the last few days he has been working late and when he farts they smell different. Should I ask if he is cheating on me?
    This sounds silly.. But my hubby has always had the same smelling fart for years and the whole family know as he always blames the kids of the dog, but the last few days he has been working late and when he farts they smell different. Should I ask if he is cheating on me?
    23 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 19 hours ago
  • If I continue to accuse my husband of cheating will that make him do it even if he's not?

    I think my husband is cheating on me, but I have no real proof. He denys it, but my heart says there is something going on. I have been asking and accusing him for months. Will he eventually cheat
    I think my husband is cheating on me, but I have no real proof. He denys it, but my heart says there is something going on. I have been asking and accusing him for months. Will he eventually cheat
    51 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 3 days ago
  • I really need a mom/mother figure in my life?

    Best answer: Alcoholic people are very difficult to handle and I'm speaking from my own experience. My father was a psychopathic, alcohol-dependent person. He even tried to kill me and my mother a few times. Due to this, I don't have the best trust issues with other people and my mother also went abroad as soon as she... show more
    Best answer: Alcoholic people are very difficult to handle and I'm speaking from my own experience. My father was a psychopathic, alcohol-dependent person. He even tried to kill me and my mother a few times. Due to this, I don't have the best trust issues with other people and my mother also went abroad as soon as she and fater divorced. And I didn't even remain in a single place for a long time to have any role model in my life. I was passed around in the family. However, I learned that if I willed myself and accepted the responsibilities towards myself, I could move forward becoming a friend and a guide to myself. The world may be crammed up with cruelty but there is also kindness. Remember to TRUST YOURSELF, BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, SELF - EVALUATE AND MOTIVATE YOURSELF. If u are able to do these successfully then u won't need any mom or even any role model figure, U yourself will be a to up on for everyone.
    37 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • Isn't rape the woman's fault?

    If the woman did not dress slutty/in revealing clothes she would not have been raped. I think most would agree that women are mostly to blame for getting raped
    If the woman did not dress slutty/in revealing clothes she would not have been raped. I think most would agree that women are mostly to blame for getting raped
    286 answers · Friends · 6 days ago
  • Is 50 year age gap okay for marriage?

    A 21 year old and 60 year old?
    A 21 year old and 60 year old?
    7 answers · Singles & Dating · 11 hours ago
  • Married young have a great loving marriage but I wish I had tried other men first.?

    I met my man at 16 he took my virginity and swept me off my feet married at 20, never dated another guy. Married now twelve years, love him so much We are both very happy, great full life and yes a great sex life. But I yearn to try other other men, no one specific I just wonder what it's like with another... show more
    I met my man at 16 he took my virginity and swept me off my feet married at 20, never dated another guy. Married now twelve years, love him so much We are both very happy, great full life and yes a great sex life. But I yearn to try other other men, no one specific I just wonder what it's like with another guy I sometimes fantasize about strangers when we are having sex. What causes this? Is it some normal suppressed need in me? It's getting stronger.
    22 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 21 hours ago
  • Rate me 1-10?

    Rate me 1-10?

    Best answer: 25 out of 10.
    Best answer: 25 out of 10.
    13 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 day ago
  • My boyfriend's penis is so big he can't have sex with me?

    Best answer: Insist that he get into cunnilingus or find a different man
    Best answer: Insist that he get into cunnilingus or find a different man
    22 answers · Singles & Dating · 2 days ago
  • Why does every guy I meet want me for sex. Will anyone listen to my sob story?

    I grew up thinking I wasn't beautiful and was just fat and ugly. Lots of girls think that. I wished for men to lust after me and wanted attention. Well, be careful what you wish for... I'm not trying to sound cocky but I was blessed with a very nice body and face. I have an amazing personality and been told... show more
    I grew up thinking I wasn't beautiful and was just fat and ugly. Lots of girls think that. I wished for men to lust after me and wanted attention. Well, be careful what you wish for... I'm not trying to sound cocky but I was blessed with a very nice body and face. I have an amazing personality and been told I'm extremely funny, even when I'm not trying to be. But I've always been taken advantage of. Mostly for my kindness. I can never say no to a person. Now that I've come of age and I'm at that point where men always look at me, my kindness and looks don't go hand in hand. I thought no one liked but I came to find out that lots of guys did. But only for my looks. I could be the worst person alive and they'd still wanna do me just for my looks. The worst part is I can't say no, so I'll comply sometimes if they wanna hear me moan their name or whatever because let's face it. I'm a bit of a recluse and I'll kill for some type of feeling of personal contact. Sexual or not. I love having this attention and all but it saddens me everyone just wants to use me for sex. I recently met an idol of mine. I look up to him and I adore him and his personality. He's extremely hot and I nearly fainted when he took an interest in me and asked me for my name. He said I was really cute. Not even a few seconds later he made several innuendos about me blowing him. Im running out of typing space so I'll continue this in updates
    4 answers · Singles & Dating · 1 hour ago
  • How often do women want sex?

    222 answers · Singles & Dating · 6 days ago
  • Would you disown your child if they turned out to be gay?

    Best answer: Of course not. He or she can't help it if they are gay. It's not a choice you make to be gay. You love them and accept them as they are.
    Best answer: Of course not. He or she can't help it if they are gay. It's not a choice you make to be gay. You love them and accept them as they are.
    36 answers · Family · 2 days ago
  • How do I tell my husband I have been cheating on him?

    Best answer: You need to end the relationship with this person you work with immediately. You need to then go to your husband's friend in total humility and with your heart on your sleeve and tell your husband's friend that you broke it off, that what he did was a wake-up call and made you realize how reckless and... show more
    Best answer: You need to end the relationship with this person you work with immediately. You need to then go to your husband's friend in total humility and with your heart on your sleeve and tell your husband's friend that you broke it off, that what he did was a wake-up call and made you realize how reckless and stupid you were being, how much you f*cked up, and how much you love your husband. Don't make excuses. Do NOT make excuses. Thank him for doing that for you, for giving you the chance to pull your head out of your @ss, that it may be the greatest favor anyone's ever done for you, and while you know he did it for your husband, not you, you nonetheless feel gratitude towards him.

    Tell him how angry you are at yourself, that that isn't you. You never imagined yourself doing it. Tell him that you did it not because you loved the guy or even really liked the guy because he's actually kind of a tool but just because you liked the attention, the rush of it, no good reason. Tell him how ashamed you are that you were so weak, that you let yourself be drawn into such superficial and destructive crap.

    But all that's over! You tell him in all sincerity that you want to save your marriage, that you NEED to save your marriage--for your kids, for your husband, and for yourself! Share with him that you're deeply afraid that if he tells him now or forces you to tell him right now, in the heat of this moment, that it will irreparably break your marriage, break your family, and destroy his best friend, your husband.

    Trust me, no friend wants to deliver this news because he runs a good chance of losing your husband as a friend because in situations like this, we guys often kill the bearer of bad news, but don't tell him that--just know that he's thinking that, that he's actually scared sh*tless of telling your husband, which is why he came to you and not to him.

    You tell him that you will tell your husband but when the time is right. You need time to return your relationship to a place where it can bear the strain of this news rather than be shattered by it. Tell him that if he forces the situation, it can only absolutely destroy your marriage because your husband won't ever be able to trust you again because he'll know you only told him because you had to, and maybe you don't deserve that trust, but you've got to try to preserve it nonetheless or your marriage will undoubtedly fail, for trust is the cornerstone of marriage. You tell him that if he wants, you will tell him when you tell your husband and assure him that when you do, you will leave his name out of it. He will want that.

    Apologize profusely to this friend of your husband for putting him in this terrible position and fall upon his mercy. Tell him that you will do whatever it takes to prove to him that you've broken it off with this guy--if that means quitting your job to prove this guy is out of your life, then quit your job and find a new one. Tell him that you will also ask your husband to go to couples therapy, that maybe in that environment, you can find a path to honesty that won't completely obliterate the trust in your marriage, that your marriage can come back from. Remind him how much your husband loves your kids and how if this isn't handled carefully so that it leads to divorce, how much it will hurt him and hurt the kids to have to split up custody. Make him see the devastation of hastily telling your husband about something that is now over.

    In reality, you may never tell him. They say the truth will set you free. That's bullsh*t, unless their talking about setting you free from your marriage. Some secrets are better to take to your grave. Some truths do more harm then good. Unburdening that truth on him leaves him with the burden carry, a burden you alone should carry and live with. If you forsake the sin, it might be best to put it behind you and never speak of it again.

    The more time you can buy with your husband's friend, the longer you can keep him from telling him, the less and less likely he will tell him because then he becomes increasingly unable to explain why he didn't tell him and becomes increasingly complicit.

    You might also try making this friend of your husband's your friend. Lean on him for support, like he's the only one you can talk to about this, about all the guilt you feel. But if you make him your confessor, take care to not reveal to him more than he already knows. If he only knows about a few incidents or a couple months, not a year long affair, leave it that way. Invite him over more. Do more to encourage his friendship with your husband. Give him an active role in helping keep you two together. Get him on your team. Become best couples friends with him and his wife or girlfriend. If he thinks he is helping save his friend's marriage, he will be satisfied and will not feel like he's betraying his friend by not telling him.

    Your other option is to lie to his friend. Tell him that you've told your husband when you haven't. Tell him that you and your husband had a huge and massive fight that went all night and into the morning and that it was touch and go but you have decided to work through it for the kids. The thing about guys is, your husband will only tell his friend about your cheating if it's the reason you're splitting up. If you stay together, he would never tell his friend. It's too personal. He'll be embarrassed about it. He wants to keep up appearances. He wants to look like he has his sh*t together. He doesn't want to look like he has a wife who's made a fool of him, who's messed around on him. That's emasculating. And even if that isn't what your husband would actually do, that's so much how guys react to situations like this that his friend will think that's what he's doing. If his friend believes he knows about your affair but your husband doesn't talk about it to him, he will NEVER bring it up to your husband. He'll take the tack of "if he doesn't want to talk about it, I'm not going to make him." Plus, if he brings it up, the expected response from your husband would be, "WTF?! You knew about it and didn't tell me!!!" Your husband's friend will be afraid to say he knew in fear that your husband will think that not saying anything was an act of betrayal and that he's been laughing at him behind his back all this time while he's been fronting while secretly going through all this sh*t. Basically, your husband's friend has no real way of verifying that you've told your husband without great personal risk to his friendship, so if you do a very good job of making your husband's friend believe you told your husband, he'll never bring it up. Even if your husband one day says something like "I know my wife has always been faithful," he will still not say a word because he'll think your husband is fronting, and even if he suspects he's been had, he's back in the boat of not having told him for however long.

    So tricking your husband's friend into thinking you told your husband and that you're going to work it out but that you did him the favor of leaving his name out of it is a viable option because your husband's friend hasn't thought far enough ahead to realize that in that scenario he has no way of verifying you actually did without asking your husband straight out, which can only blow up in his face in a possibly friendship-ending way if it turns out you did tell him.
    57 answers · Marriage & Divorce · 4 days ago