• I found out my husband had been cheating on me with a women from church that I knew. Should I tell her hisband what she did?

    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why... show more
    Best answer: You just don’t want to react in revenge, for your own sake. I would probably tell her that she needs to tell her husband and leave it at that. Then she’ll be afraid you will tell him and hopefully she’ll tell him herself. But you have your own marriage to worry about. It’s going to be a bumpy road figuring out why he cheated and trying to fix the problems, you don’t have the energy to add more fuel to the fire. Concentrate on your selves for now atleast
    50 answers · 3 days ago
  • Do men want to marry their moms? do they not see what a turn off this is?

    Best answer: No, most men don't want to marry someone who will act like an authority figure or parent toward them. Some women behave that way regardless, because they want things done when they want them done, and get frustrated if their spouse doesn't feel that's necessary. It rarely has anything to do with a man... show more
    Best answer: No, most men don't want to marry someone who will act like an authority figure or parent toward them. Some women behave that way regardless, because they want things done when they want them done, and get frustrated if their spouse doesn't feel that's necessary. It rarely has anything to do with a man wanting to marry a mommy-figure.

    Some men want to marry someone similar to their mother, as in maybe looks or personality or spirit. That doesn't mean they want their wife to mother over them, but that they hold their mother (as a person) in high regard and would like to have a wife with some of the same qualities that they admire/respect in their mother.
    5 answers · 23 hours ago
  • Should I leave my jobless/low ambition wife?

    Best answer: I’m sorry about your situation. I can’t imagine how frustrating and difficult it may be sometimes. As the others on here have sugguested you may have to set some time aside with your wife to discuss the matter. WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: “There is . . . a time to speak.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7) Make sure that you spend... show more
    Best answer: I’m sorry about your situation. I can’t imagine how frustrating and difficult it may be sometimes. As the others on here have sugguested you may have to set some time aside with your wife to discuss the matter.

    WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS: “There is . . . a time to speak.” (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 7) Make sure that you spend time talking about the problem. Honestly let your wife know how you feel and what you think on the subject. Always “speak truth” with your wife. (Ephesians 4:25) Even when strong emotions are involved, resist the urge to fight. A calm answer can keep what should be a simple discussion from escalating into a battle.—Proverbs 15:4; 26:20.

    Even if you disagree, remain gracious, never forgetting to show love and respect to your mate. (Colossians 4:6) Try to resolve the issue as soon as possible, and do not stop communicating.—Ephesians 4:26.

    Marriage mates discuss a problem together. Set an appropriate time to discuss the problem.
    When it is your turn to listen, resist the urge to interrupt. You will get your turn to speak


    Try to listen and to understand (this goes for the both of you).

    “Have tender affection for one another. In showing honor to one another, take the lead.” (Romans 12:10) How you listen is very important. Try to understand your mate’s point of view with “fellow feeling . . . and humility.” (1 Peter 3:8; James 1:19) Do not just pretend to listen. When possible, put aside what you are doing and give your mate your full attention, or ask if you can discuss this later. If you think of your marriage mate as your teammate rather than your opponent, you will “not be quick to take offense.”—Ecclesiastes 7:9.

    Keep listening with an open mind, even if what you are hearing displeases you
    Listen for the message behind the words. Notice your mate’s body language and tone of voice

    FOLLOW THROUGH

    “There is benefit in every kind of hard work, but mere talk leads to want.” (Proverbs 14:23) Agreeing on a good solution is not enough. You need to follow through on what you both decide. This may involve hard work and much effort, but it will be worth it. (Proverbs 10:4) If you work together as a team, you will “have a good reward” for your hard work.—Ecclesiastes 4:9.

    Decide what practical steps you will each take to solve your problem
    From time to time, evaluate your progress
    TACKLE PROBLEMS TOGETHER
    By working together, you can ensure that your marriage will be strong and happy rather than weak and miserable. (Proverbs 24:3) Look to the future, and do not bring up past problems. (Proverbs 17:9) When you cooperate with each other and apply Bible principles, you can handle any problem successfully.

    ASK YOURSELF . . .
    What is the most urgent problem that I want to discuss with my mate?
    What can I do to understand how my mate really feels about the problem?
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • Mistress is pregnant and I don’t know if I should tell my wife?

    My ex mistress called me to tell me that she is pregnant with my kid. She said that she will get an abortion only if I come along to support her and if I don’t come she will keep the child and tell my wife. The thing is, my wife knows about what went on with us and she decided to give me another chance. We moved... show more
    My ex mistress called me to tell me that she is pregnant with my kid. She said that she will get an abortion only if I come along to support her and if I don’t come she will keep the child and tell my wife. The thing is, my wife knows about what went on with us and she decided to give me another chance. We moved our family to a different state to try to “start over” meaning I would have to go all the way back there just to be present when she gets that abortion. I don’t really want to tell my wife because it’ll be a major step back and she most likely will end up leaving me and taking our kids with her. I don’t know what to do?
    35 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it cheating on my husband if i’ve performing oral sex on my best friend’s husband? We rarely have sex. I just give him oral?

    Best answer: cheating is all in the mind everything is legal until and unless u get caught...go live ur life
    Best answer: cheating is all in the mind everything is legal until and unless u get caught...go live ur life
    46 answers · 4 days ago
  • What to do about cheating husband?

    To start with, we were married 10/14/17. Everything was fine, until we got into an argument over the idea that I pushed we wait to have a baby. (We had previously agreed my birth control would come out in october, but now I want to postpone to May when I graduate) He was very hurt, and betrayed that I made the... show more
    To start with, we were married 10/14/17. Everything was fine, until we got into an argument over the idea that I pushed we wait to have a baby. (We had previously agreed my birth control would come out in october, but now I want to postpone to May when I graduate) He was very hurt, and betrayed that I made the decision alone, and held his hopes up the entire engagement(one year long). He said he understood my reasoning, but I could sense that he sort of resented me for it. Fastforward, and our arguing increases, (finances, home remodel, the normal small stuff), but at the end of the day, I thought we were both happy. I could tell he was becoming more distant, but I attributed that to him working 7 12s and being exhausted. I noticed over the course of last week, that the affection had dwindled to nothing, and that he hadn’t really even looked at me the three days prior. Sunday we talked, and he told me how miserable he was, and that he wanted a divorce because he was unhappy. I asked what had happened, and he said he had lost the infatuation(did I spell that right?) that he had once had for me. I asked if he still loved me, and he said yes. I told him I wanted to try to work it out, but he said he was afraid things would be good for a little while, and then he would become unhappy with me because he wasnt sure if he could find the desire again. He promised he would try though, and so the next day began.
    20 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why don’t I want to sleep with my husband?

    Best answer: Because you married way too young. Based on your timeline, you were in "in love with one guy for years"... and then "married two years after that"... that means you're big breakup happened when you were 18. Honey - you didn't love that guy.. at 15-16-17 you don't know what adult... show more
    Best answer: Because you married way too young. Based on your timeline, you were in "in love with one guy for years"... and then "married two years after that"... that means you're big breakup happened when you were 18. Honey - you didn't love that guy.. at 15-16-17 you don't know what adult love is...

    The human brain doesn't fully mature until around age 25... you married the first guy you ever dated as an adult, before your brain was mature enough to identify what it is you want out of life... This has nothing to do with losing your sex drive due to a breakup of a teen relationship.. This is about you marrying someone out of your own insecurity of being alone at the tender age of 20..
    10 answers · 5 hours ago
  • Should i believe my Husband or should i just move on.?

    My husband of 17years. Wants to seperate from me due to endless arguments,my attitude and trust issues. He said that he wants to move on to his on place so that he could be more independent. He feel that he didn't get to experience being a independent man living on his own being that we were together since the... show more
    My husband of 17years. Wants to seperate from me due to endless arguments,my attitude and trust issues. He said that he wants to move on to his on place so that he could be more independent. He feel that he didn't get to experience being a independent man living on his own being that we were together since the age of 18 years old. He refuses to go to marriage counseling, because he work too much. I asked him would he like to save our marriage and he answered yes; but only if i make those changes in my attitude and become more independent. He fell out of love with me because of the way i get angry and handle different situations. He tells me that im still a beautiful woman to him and that he want a year living apart from me to see If he would miss me again. He say that his heart is blocked from loving me he just cant seem to get pass all the hurtful situations we both put each other through. I Love my husband and I dont want him to leave me. Please I need helpful advice.
    29 answers · 3 days ago
  • If your spouse is too attached to their mother can it effect your marriage negatively?

    They call their mother several times a day and their mother calls several times a day(6-10 times a day). They work for their uncle and their mother is also involved in that same company. Mother comes over to the house 3-6 times a week for dinner. Their mother calls late at night while you are in bed together. Could... show more
    They call their mother several times a day and their mother calls several times a day(6-10 times a day). They work for their uncle and their mother is also involved in that same company. Mother comes over to the house 3-6 times a week for dinner. Their mother calls late at night while you are in bed together. Could this effect your marriage negatively?
    26 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it important to get to know your spouses family after you get married?

    My husband is upset that I don't have a personal relationship with his mom and family he asked why I never check up on them or call them I don't dislike them or have any hard feelings towards them I respect them as his family but I don't understand why I should reach out to get to know them personally I... show more
    My husband is upset that I don't have a personal relationship with his mom and family he asked why I never check up on them or call them I don't dislike them or have any hard feelings towards them I respect them as his family but I don't understand why I should reach out to get to know them personally I mean after all I didn't marry them I care about my husband and my relationship with him not his family and we don't have any kids so it's kinda awkward forme just to call his mom am I wrong???
    17 answers · 2 days ago
  • Do all husbands have that “I don’t give a crap” attitude towards everything?

    Ugh. My husband gets on my nerves for small things all the time. For instance, today there were a bunch of tiny small ants on our countertops, in the sink, all over the walls. There were dishes in the sink and it was his turn to do them for tonight. He said he’ll do them in the morning (before the ants were found).... show more
    Ugh. My husband gets on my nerves for small things all the time. For instance, today there were a bunch of tiny small ants on our countertops, in the sink, all over the walls. There were dishes in the sink and it was his turn to do them for tonight. He said he’ll do them in the morning (before the ants were found). Well I cleaned all of the ants, I even did the damn dishes FOR HIM and he didn’t even say anything, he just asked why I did them I said wel I’m not about to wake up with ants everywhere and having to clean them early in the morning. He didn’t even say anything at all like how can you men just not give a crap about these things? I mean there were ants EVERYWHERE. How disgusting. I can’t imagone what it would have been like in the am! Anyone else have these issues??? I feel like I’m always cleaning and doing everything and he just doesn’t help at all
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • My wife cheated on me, I am struggling to forgive her. What should I do ?

    My wife and I have been married for 4 years. 7 months ago she miscarried and gave birth to a stillborn I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and I was hurting to. 3 weeks later I had to go away on business and whilst I was away she slept with a man that we know through friends of ours. She told me about 3... show more
    My wife and I have been married for 4 years. 7 months ago she miscarried and gave birth to a stillborn I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and I was hurting to. 3 weeks later I had to go away on business and whilst I was away she slept with a man that we know through friends of ours. She told me about 3 months ago and now we are distant and I told her I forgive her because I understand why she did it if she was grieving, but I haven't really forgiven her. I have tried my best but I keep picturing her with another man. Sometimes when we argue I bring it up because I want to hurt her. My wife wants to try for another baby but I am not convinced that I want to because she is still grieving a bit and I haven't forgiven her. What should I do? So I can forgive her. How can I tell her I don't want to try for another baby yet? Am I being unfair?
    9 answers · 18 hours ago
  • How do you live in a sexless marriage at just 36 years old?

    Wife just has a bunch of excuses or finds any little stupid thing for us not to be intimate. We can go anywhere from 4 to 7 weeks without any intimacy. She’s 41 and my just 36. This isn’t normal!!! Now if I cheat then it’s my fault but why would any woman put their husband in a position like this or drive them... show more
    Wife just has a bunch of excuses or finds any little stupid thing for us not to be intimate. We can go anywhere from 4 to 7 weeks without any intimacy. She’s 41 and my just 36. This isn’t normal!!! Now if I cheat then it’s my fault but why would any woman put their husband in a position like this or drive them elsewhere? Love fades and I feel my love for wife fading as I don’t think she’s just interested in me anymore.
    32 answers · 4 days ago
  • Sex with wife,s niece?

    my wife,s niece wants to do sex with me who is 19.i want also I m 33.what you think?
    my wife,s niece wants to do sex with me who is 19.i want also I m 33.what you think?
    29 answers · 4 days ago
  • Husband problem?

    Me and my husband ( married for 2 years have been together for 9) started avoiding any sexual activity with me. If we do have any sex he usually gets soft and can’t get hard unless he touches him self. I am 5”6 weight 59kg ( model type body) he recently left to uk for 2 months and When he came back in November... show more
    Me and my husband ( married for 2 years have been together for 9) started avoiding any sexual activity with me. If we do have any sex he usually gets soft and can’t get hard unless he touches him self. I am 5”6 weight 59kg ( model type body) he recently left to uk for 2 months and When he came back in November that’s when things started happening. I’ll walk around naked he won’t even notice. I’ll dress sexy he won’t get turned on he’ll change topics. He doesn’t let me give him oral he doesn’t even want to hear about it we are both 25 years old. I should add that on his ig page he watches very fit woman videos pictures he watches porn and he masturbates almost every morning in the shower. He leaves me and my 3 year old son at home every single day from 11am until night around 8pm he says it’s because he does business. I started assuming he is cheating. He barely just washes his face and is out the house. I’ve confronted him about this he says nothing is going on. Recently I found a picture of a woman showing her breast on her bed to which I confronted him about it he said it was just a random Instagram picture he saved. I don’t believe that. I am on the edge here already I am very close to leaving him. But I don’t have that cheating proof. He says if he was cheating his phone would be blowing up. I don’t know what is going on with him. Anyone any advise please ??
    9 answers · 20 hours ago
  • Marriage question!?

    I have a serious question I want all opinions. When you have a child with someone or even if you don’t and this person claims to love you , your their world they can’t live without you. Should their be a time limit on marriage. What does it mean to be married. Why is it so special. I personally share a child with a... show more
    I have a serious question I want all opinions. When you have a child with someone or even if you don’t and this person claims to love you , your their world they can’t live without you. Should their be a time limit on marriage. What does it mean to be married. Why is it so special. I personally share a child with a man and we have been together 3 years I told him 5 or 6 years from now if we aren’t “working towards” marriage then I feel like I’ve just waisted my time and energy. He gets upset and tells me I have no right to give him a time limit. I said I’m not giving you a time limit it’s just my belief especially if you claim to love me so much. I just feel like you want commitment without commitment. Please help
    9 answers · 21 hours ago