• Is it wrong to do this to my husband?

    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I... show more
    Sometimes I slip tablets into my husband's coffee or tea to help stimulate him to have sex with me. Sometimes he's too tired or never aroused We had a dry spell where we would have sex once a month. Now with using the tablets we have sex 3-5 days a week. One of my girlfriend's suggested this and I feel good about it. But another friend of mine said its immoral and said I should divorce him for not naturally being able to have sex as much as I desire. Am I horrible wife?
    30 answers · 1 day ago
  • My boyfrnd of 4 years says he wants to move together first before marriage, but im 4mths pregnant and want marriege before the baby. Advise?

    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years...we had always talked about marriage but he hasnt propsed to me yet. I found out im pregnant so that really had me pushing towards marriage especially with my Christian upbringing. I dont want it to seem as if we are getting married because im pregnant...i... show more
    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years...we had always talked about marriage but he hasnt propsed to me yet. I found out im pregnant so that really had me pushing towards marriage especially with my Christian upbringing. I dont want it to seem as if we are getting married because im pregnant...i want him to marry me because he wabts to spebd the rest of our lives together. So my boyfriend and I have talked and he said that he wants to first move in together before we make a commitment..but I dont think that matters if you love me and we been together for almost 5 years you should have been married me...and now that im pregnant should push you to commit to me. I live with my parents he lives in his own place with a roommate...Im over there everyday cleaning doing laundy we making love its basically like I live there but he says its not how it would be if we actually atayed under one roof. My boyfriend loooks like he is set in his own way...but I wabt to be married before this baby arrives. Any advice??
    24 answers · 20 hours ago
  • How to gain my wife's trust post domestic abuse?

    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone... show more
    To make a long story short, i hit my wife several times over the course of two months. I had personal issues she wasnt aware of and it got worse when her parents got into a conflict with me etc. So now she's gone for her own safety and she is in alot of emotional pain. We talk for hours each day on the phone but she is scared of me. She doesnt want to see me or be in a room alone with me ( thats how serious things are ). I got some treatment and im following her instructions on how to spend my time alone constructivly etc. Is there anything i can do to gain her trust again ? Time is running and we miss alot of the things we did together. I dont need any advice or criticisim about me; just advise on how i can gain her trust..i know im a monster cause ive been made this way by my alcoholic father abusing me and beating me as a kid and juvenile.
    23 answers · 1 day ago
  • Husband wants to charge my parents for staying in our house?

    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he... show more
    So my parents are coming to stay with us for a week next month since we moved to a different state and don't get to see them often. My husband has been dreading this for awhile. He doesn't like them and they don't like him that much. They weren't enthusiastic with me marrying him because he doesn't have a standard job (flipping real estate) and that he smokes weed (we now live in a legal state). My husband has told me he plans on calling them and telling them he will charge them $100 a night to stay at our house. He thinks that they shouldn't be allowed to be in our house without compensation. I don't want him to do this as these are my parents and they don't have much money. Most hotels in our area are more than $100 except bad motels. What should I do?
    25 answers · 2 days ago
  • If a husband uses porn to masturbate only when he is away from his wife for a month, should the wife be angry about it?

    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry,... show more
    In general, the wife prefers to have sex only once or twice a month, whereas the husband would prefer to do it at least once a week. For reasons of work, the husband was sometimes away for a month, during which he used porn for masturbation. On one occasion, the wife discovered it, and she was extremely angry, complaining about the issue even 3-4 years later. Were her complaints justified? Cheating or sexting never occurred.
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • Husband obsessed with his parents!?

    My husband is 34, I am 32. We both work full-time and our 3 yrold daughter goes to preschool 5 days/wk. I am generally very unhappy about having to leave her but for a multitude of reasons we felt that daycare was the best option. I am generally fiercely protective of any time that I do get to spend with her. The... show more
    My husband is 34, I am 32. We both work full-time and our 3 yrold daughter goes to preschool 5 days/wk. I am generally very unhappy about having to leave her but for a multitude of reasons we felt that daycare was the best option. I am generally fiercely protective of any time that I do get to spend with her. The issue is that my husband is severely devoted with his parents & demands that we see them every single Sunday, we end up spending 3-4 hours which is down from years past. His mother and I have a strained relationship, and her tendencies to hoard my child during our visits, results in little time being spent with my daughter and I am furious.I find it reasonable to visit bi-weekly. At the very least, I think the visits if more than biweekly should be kept to 1 hour-max of 2. My daughter is just a toddler, and it's very important for me to spend time with her. Also the fact that I feel betrayed by my husband as he is out and out choosing his (overbearing) mothers over me. She has made huge issues and enjoys regularly making this an issue for her son and I, and encouraging us to fight about it. Fights about this issue have led to all-out battles and divorce is mentioned frequently over it. How would you handle this issue?
    15 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Should a wife who Works Full Time, Have to do household chores when the husband does not work?

    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact... show more
    Now let me start off with before this year My husband held a full time job, where after our child was born he supported me for three years; until he has shoulder surgery and get a part time job. after his recovery he return to his job and I return to my part time. He however grew tired of his workplace and the fact he never had time to play games,or attend tournaments for.40k. He then asked me to find a full time Job so.he could leave his job. I did, however over an.hour so we sold our home, to help my now homeless parents buy a home.He Did Leave his Job.He gets to attend every 40k event and gaming event he wants too now that his time his free. It worked for a.few months until our vehicle had broken down .He then stated he wants $500 from each of my paycheck to put twords repairs and afterwards he will then put it in savings. He has slipped up.a few times.claiming he is so frustrated with not having his own money. So I assume the $500 is really so he can have money. That leaves me with Bill money and grocery money by the end of it all.Now flash forward to recent times, I just took on a new job paying $2 more then the previous one. it'll be nice to get some help around the house. then proceeded to set rules that I and our daughter must follow. He is sick of being the only person doing work around the house, That it's always him, and everyone is lazy.Anyway tho I work full time to support him should I be the one to take over household chores, while he works Outside?
    15 answers · 13 hours ago
  • Every time I bring the possibility of marriage, the my boyfriend always brings up a prenup. Should I break up with him?

    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah... show more
    I’d bring up marriage and he’d say something like “yeah but just so you know I’m getting a prenup” and he’s reminded me at least 4 times in the two years we’ve been together and ruins a good moment to think of the future with him. It bothers me that every time I think of us having a future he’s basically like “yeah but our future could end”. Is it bad that I don’t like that that is the first thing he thinks about? I feel like he’s more worried about his money and house than thinking about a good, happy future? We’re in our early twenties and he’s never even been married to be this skeptical but I understand getting one in general but why bring it up every time??
    18 answers · 1 day ago
  • Starting to question marriage?

    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated.... show more
    My husband and I are pregnant with twins. I’m due in September. I’m planning to take off for a year to take care of the kids. He told me that if I take a year off he’s not supporting me but will support the kids. He asked me why should he support me financially while I’m on a “year long” vacation. I’m devastated. We both currently work full time. I’m actually taking 4 weeks off prior to having our sons which my husband is also upset with. I’m really considering divorce after having the boys. Any advice?
    24 answers · 2 days ago
  • My wife wrecked my car?

    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    She gave my car to her teenage brother who got his licence like yesterday. She didn’t ask me or anything. She just gave it to him. I get no insurance money because the punk was driving while drunk. I really wish he died. Tell me what to do with this anger? And what to do with my shityy wife and her **** family?
    23 answers · 2 days ago
  • Am I controlling for not wanting my wife to wear extremely short shorts if it bothers me?

    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will.. Second thing you... show more
    Best answer: Lol, okay... first thing, repeat after me.. "I am a very unique and high value man. Any woman who entertains me better be worth it because I bring what a lot of men don't bring".. Keep repeating this to yourself until you believe it....because once you believe it, everyone will..

    Second thing you should love a woman in such a way, that she feels free. Why is this important? Because women are like children.. You tell them the rules, they will follow it in front of you.. but behind your back is another question... So instead of demanding her to follow "your rules and expectations".. You love her in away, where she would be scared to mess it up..

    So when your intertwine these two quotes in your marriage/relationship, when you see her in shorts shorts, you go behind her, touch her shoulders, and whisper in her ears "get those sexy thighs in the bedroom in the next 5 min, " and make love to her...

    You have to look at it, as of course that sexy woman in shorts shorts is with me, compared to OMG, SHES WEARING SHORTS SHORTS... WHAT IF A GUY NOTICES AND FLIRTS WITH HER BUHAHAH 0_O...

    Last thing, never purposely show your insecurities in front of your woman... why?? because of the first quote above...You re James freaking Bond to her, don't forget that
    12 answers · 10 hours ago
  • How do I go about asking for oral sex in a Muslim marriage?

    So I’m about to get married soon and I’m just wondering if it’s okay to discuss sex before marriage. What would be the best way to bring it up without sounding perverse? I’m from the US and I’m traveling to Dubai with my parents to search for a potential bride. The reason I’m asking is because oral sex is very... show more
    So I’m about to get married soon and I’m just wondering if it’s okay to discuss sex before marriage. What would be the best way to bring it up without sounding perverse? I’m from the US and I’m traveling to Dubai with my parents to search for a potential bride. The reason I’m asking is because oral sex is very important to me and I’d hate to find out after spending a fortune on a wedding to realize she either disagrees with the act or simply just doesn’t wanna do it. Don’t tell me it’s ‘haram’, I’ve done my research and came to the conclusion that there’s no decisive evidence forbidding it. How could I bring up the subject without sounding rude or perverted? It’s a vital part of sex and not receiving it is honestly a make or break deal in a marriage for me. I’m 24 with an extremely high sex drive and I have needs and desires that require fulfilling. I’ll be damned to put myself in a position to be sexually frustrated. It simply just isn’t fair or right. Disagree all you want, but that’s just how I feel. So how would I go about finding out? Any subtle hints I could give or jokes I could throw out to see if she’s into that? What do you guys think? Lemme know. Thanks!
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • Is Getting married in 2018 a stupid decision?

    I’m a 19 year old male, and for some reason I cannot wrap my head around why people get married in 2018, specifically men. I think it’s betamale behavior to get married due to the simple fact that most women cheat in the process. Getting married also poses huge financial risks such as alimony, child support (since... show more
    I’m a 19 year old male, and for some reason I cannot wrap my head around why people get married in 2018, specifically men. I think it’s betamale behavior to get married due to the simple fact that most women cheat in the process. Getting married also poses huge financial risks such as alimony, child support (since women almost always win the custody battle), and other expenses. You also lose your freedom, friends, and your manhood in the process. I think marriage is a bad business decision for men, and a life insurance policy for women. There’s no incentive for a man to marry a woman due to the simple fact that he can get sex without having to marry a her on today’s times. Women on the other hand literally have a financial incentive to do so. The divorce rate is 52 percent and 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women because they know they can take their husband to the cleaners in the event the marriage goes sour. So what exactly is in it for a man to get married?
    21 answers · 2 days ago
  • Why do married men have side chicks (mistresses)?

    Best answer: They can get what they need that they're not getting at home and they don't have to mow the lawn or take out the garbage or put up with screaming brats and a mother-in-law.
    Best answer: They can get what they need that they're not getting at home and they don't have to mow the lawn or take out the garbage or put up with screaming brats and a mother-in-law.
    47 answers · 5 days ago
  • Would you avoid marrying someone if his children were brassy, tacky and arrogant?

    Best answer: No-No baby fathers
    Best answer: No-No baby fathers
    12 answers · 22 hours ago
  • My son is leaving home for college and has never had to cook or clean. What should I do?

    He is my only child. My husband worked. My son went to school. I stayed home, cleaned and cooked. That’s how it has always been, and it worked for us. He’s now leaving for college in less than a month and I’m worried that he isn’t prepared as far as knowing how to sustain himself. I don’t want to load a pile of... show more
    He is my only child. My husband worked. My son went to school. I stayed home, cleaned and cooked. That’s how it has always been, and it worked for us. He’s now leaving for college in less than a month and I’m worried that he isn’t prepared as far as knowing how to sustain himself. I don’t want to load a pile of chores on him at once and overwhelm him, but I didn’t realize it could be a problem until now. Please help.
    13 answers · 1 day ago
  • My husband told be it wasn't necessary for him to be at the birth of our child. And now I resent him?

    I thought he was joking but when I went into labor he literally just drove me to the hospital and made sure I was admitted and he went home. He said he wasn't going to lose sleep over me. I had an emergency c-section twins one girl and one boy. I was all by myself. I was scared and felt so alone. He decides to... show more
    I thought he was joking but when I went into labor he literally just drove me to the hospital and made sure I was admitted and he went home. He said he wasn't going to lose sleep over me. I had an emergency c-section twins one girl and one boy. I was all by myself. I was scared and felt so alone. He decides to show up late in the evening the next day and his excuse for not coming earlier was because he had to be at work. he told me not to bother him and to make sure that when i call him to have my stuff and the babies ready because he was not going to sit there and wait with me. His daughter was in the hospital and he stayed by her side and followed up with additional visits to her home. His mother is getting married for the fourth time and he is going through hoops to make sure that he is there. I am constantly being verbally abused. I feel weak and hopeless because I have other kids to think about. I didnt want to be divorced. But he is totally pushing me out. I am so angry and resent him for putting others before me. Why do men do this to a woman. They say they love you but then actions say different. Can anyone relate? I need to know that I am not alone
    18 answers · 3 days ago
  • How often should married couples have sex ?

    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if... show more
    Best answer: Anywhere from ten times a day to never. It all just depends on their individual libidos and what they've negotiated between themselves. Childless newlyweds will usually manage several times a week unless either of them have an extremely demanding job or unpredictable schedule. Sex tapers off of course if children are involved and there'll usually be about a ten or so year period when sex has to scheduled for "date night" or on those rare occasions they get to take a vacation without the kids. But then as the children grow into teens and prefer their own company the parents will have more freedom to rekindle their sex lives. There is no absolute to this though.
    17 answers · 3 days ago
  • Are you married?

    Best answer: yes i am married
    Best answer: yes i am married
    10 answers · 22 hours ago