• My dad wont give me back my ipod back?

    89 answers · 3 days ago
  • If you're old, can you give me some life-related advice? (Read full).?

    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how... show more
    See, i know this is going to sound rude so if you're easily offended just don't read, duhh. I am 20 & a Black woman. I do my best to look good.. You do get the idea. I try to look my best. Thankfully I'm not bad-looking so i do get asked out too When i was growing up, i always noticed how practically all men, esp. non-white ones, LUSTED after White women. My own brother, and my dad (though he's still married to my Black mom), too. It was hurtful. My brother is 12 years older than me. He used to EXCLUSIVELY date White women. My dad would visibly lust after those women. And all other men too. So growing up, i decided I'll ONLY date White men, because i know how ,on the inside, most of these men (including my brother who is HIGHLY successful) will reject the best of Black girls for her colour. I'd rather not be someone's compromise or second choice. I'll date only White guys so that i can be assured they find me attractive for having Black skin, or finding me exotic..instead of because they "couldn't land a White girl". I am trying to make myself prettier and I'm in University, now. I date only White men. I have straight hair, I'm thin, i speak properly and do my best in studies because i want to be rich and be able to live happy, and get revenge on those who made me feel less because I'm a Black woman. Do you have any advice for me (only answer if you're older than at least 35-40)? How do i become a successful, rich, pretty Black girl who can attract White guys easily?
    78 answers · 3 days ago
  • How to deal with annoying, copycat roommate at University?

    She's so annoying. She won't study or do her work UNTIL I do it. She copies me and i don't like it. Whenever I sit down to study, she also does even though she was sleeping till that moment. She's jealous of my academics and makes it too obvious. I'm not saying she is a bad student or she... show more
    She's so annoying. She won't study or do her work UNTIL I do it. She copies me and i don't like it. Whenever I sit down to study, she also does even though she was sleeping till that moment. She's jealous of my academics and makes it too obvious. I'm not saying she is a bad student or she shouldn't study. But WHY does she do exactly what I'm doing? Why does she copy me? What the fück is her problem- why can't she mind her own fvking business and leave me alone? Also, she "whispers" when she studies and i hate that. I can't stand it, kindergartners do that when they learn poems, not Uni students. Once I told her not to do that, and she behaved as though I'd told her something really hurtful. She stopped for a day and started doing that again Unfortunately, i cannot switch rooms (at least till this year ends). It's an average Uni, because my family is poor. I am dealing with a tough time. I want to do a PhD at a good University, at least. How do I deal with her? She's annoyed me to the point that I'm crying as i type this. How do i tolerate her for one big year?
    20 answers · 1 day ago
  • I dislike my mom?

    I am 15 (a girl if that matters), and right now I am just really angry at my mom. She always tells people I am feeling upset or mad about things I am fine with just because she disagrees with them, she forces me into situations to "help me" when in reality they don't help at all, she assumes I have... show more
    I am 15 (a girl if that matters), and right now I am just really angry at my mom. She always tells people I am feeling upset or mad about things I am fine with just because she disagrees with them, she forces me into situations to "help me" when in reality they don't help at all, she assumes I have depression when I don't just because I sleep in and like to stay in my room (I have three brothers, it is a mad house out there, no way am I going to other rooms of the house), and when I try to tell her I don't and try to reason with her, she continues thinking I do anyways and tells family members and friends. How do I reason with her? I am beginning to think she doesn't even care how I feel, I mean, I used to think she was just looking out for me but it has gone way too far past that point. Recently, we had planned for me to meet up with some of my friends who live two hours away (I can't drive there on my own since I don't have a license, and they were coming into town anyways so them and their mom were gonna take me on their way back) , she got the dates wrong and I ended up not being able to go (I was okay with it) and instead of recognizing that there was just some miscommunication, she got mad at their mom and started talking about how it hurt my feelings that I wasn't able to go and that they told her the wrong dates (they were the right dates). How do I handle her? Every time I try to talk to her about things like this she gets mad.
    23 answers · 3 days ago
  • My mom is 70 and my father is 75, are they too old?

    Best answer: not at all
    Best answer: not at all
    14 answers · 19 hours ago
  • How do I go about leaving my home?

    I'm almost 23 years old. I want to go back to college in a 4 year school, but I want to go away for school, as in living in a form. I'm not going away to another state, but I want to stay in a dorm college. I know what school I want to go to, but I'm still working on what major I should do. I... show more
    I'm almost 23 years old. I want to go back to college in a 4 year school, but I want to go away for school, as in living in a form. I'm not going away to another state, but I want to stay in a dorm college. I know what school I want to go to, but I'm still working on what major I should do. I haven't applied just yet. I want to go back to school for the Spring 2019 semester. Like I said before, I want to go away for school, but I do I go about telling my family that? They plan on going on vacation next year summer, but I want to leave home. I'm just personally sick of home at this point and I just want to go away for school. How do I tell my family about this?
    10 answers · 2 days ago
  • Should I cut off my relationship with my dad? I’m angry & conflicted?

    This is gonna be long - basically my dad has been cheating on my mom for years now. I first realized it when he told me to grab his phone, and a flirtatious text from an unsaved number had JUST popped up. I didn’t say anything to him. He also acted weird with his phone, literally angling it from everyone when... show more
    This is gonna be long - basically my dad has been cheating on my mom for years now. I first realized it when he told me to grab his phone, and a flirtatious text from an unsaved number had JUST popped up. I didn’t say anything to him. He also acted weird with his phone, literally angling it from everyone when texting at dinner / in the car. My parents went to marriage counseling, but their fighting got so bad that my dad left. Hes been staying with his cousin for the past 6 months & hadn’t come home since. My little brother had 5 emotional breakdowns at daycare during this time because it was so hard for him to barely see his dad. We were all begging for him to come home & fix things. He came to my soccer games, award show, & my little brothers play. But it wasn’t the same.. I thought he’d eventually man up and try to fix things with my mom...but he just filed for divorce. I’m caught between wanting to yell at him for hurting my mom or just never talking to him again. Going dead silent. I know I can’t do that, because when he dies I’ll regret it. I dont think my dad is a horrible person at his core, we’ve had some really good times. But he’s making bad decisions & our family has to suffer because he’s being an idiot..
    5 answers · 2 days ago
  • My mum wants to kick me out and have another baby Because she dont get any money from CSA anymore?

    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    Im 17 and my mum wants to kick me out as she no longer gets money from CSA?shes planning on having another baby so she gets the money back! However i want to live with my friend but my mum said she will get the police involved. Shes kicking me out so surely she cant do that!
    11 answers · 3 days ago
  • Baby sitting nephews at our house all the time, should their parents leave money for food?

    My wife sister lives about 3 miles away and her kids are frequently over,during the spring my wife wasn't working and the kids would be over about 2 to 3 times a week, there are 3 kids 8, 10 and 15 years old. there parents go on frequent vacations, and the last one we were going to babysit for 2 days with them... show more
    My wife sister lives about 3 miles away and her kids are frequently over,during the spring my wife wasn't working and the kids would be over about 2 to 3 times a week, there are 3 kids 8, 10 and 15 years old. there parents go on frequent vacations, and the last one we were going to babysit for 2 days with them sleeping over. Should they have left money for food? I love these kids and don't mind buying them food on unplanned outings (which we constantly do) but when there parents drop them off to go on a vacation should i expect there parents to at least offer money for their meals? need to know if I'm being petty or is the parents are being a bit fresh.
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Would you kick out your nephew?

    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation... show more
    Best answer: Like they say, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. I'm curious about what was said to him when you let him in. Did you write this out as a contract with a final deadline date or was this just a friendly chat? I have a horrible feeling it was more like the latter!. Also, is there any stipulation about jobs and contributing to family income? Finally, whose family "side" does he come from?

    I ask because what happens next is mainly the responsibility of the spouse whose relative he is. The biggest risk here is to your marriage, so if this is your relative, your wife is going to start resenting you for this mess. If it's her, you'll start resenting. So one of you owes it to the other to come down much harder on this nephew, including kicking him out.

    People are telling you to kick him out, but it's not as easy as it sounds. If he refuses to go, in most states this involves a court hearing (this all started as a way to protect tenants rights).

    You have 2 choices. If you want to give him one last chance, you've got to step up your game. Write up a contract with specific dates, like he needs to be employed w/in 5 days. He needs to give X percent of his income to you. He's to help with chores around the house, including his laundry. Get him to agree and sign this.

    If he gives you lip, or you're at the point where you're past this, then try kicking him out. If he refuses to leave, then you have to make it much more difficult for him to live there. This will be unpleasant for both of you, but you're out of options. Find a way to not give him access to your food, even if it means putting a lock on the refrig. Obviously, stop cooking for him. Dinner is for the 2 of you, and if he gets obnoxious or tries taking it anyway, call the cops. He's stealing from you.

    If he has a key to your place, try to snag it where he keeps it (it's not stealing, because it's your property). If this doesn't work, change the locks and don't give him a new key. Tell him you'll let him back in until 8 pm and after that you won't. If he stands at the front door yelling, call the cops.

    I know all this sounds extreme, but don't forget, he thinks of you and your wife as easy marks and he's taking advantage of you. You can "love" him as a relative but hate him as a person, and this is where you need to be.
    22 answers · 3 days ago
  • Is it normal for my dad to blame me for his depression?

    So, I'm in high school and I've been struggling with family issues my entire life (I'm not here to complain about my life so don't mention starving kids in Africa, I'm allowed to have issues) but anyway, my dad is the only parent I have left and sometimes I guess he says things he doesn't... show more
    So, I'm in high school and I've been struggling with family issues my entire life (I'm not here to complain about my life so don't mention starving kids in Africa, I'm allowed to have issues) but anyway, my dad is the only parent I have left and sometimes I guess he says things he doesn't mean but hey still hurt my feelings and have me thinking. He blamed me for wanting to kill himself and said that if he didn't have to take care of me his life would be better and he would be happier. I don't want to be dramatic but it just overall really makes me regret even being here because I don't want to be a burden to him and I never meant to ruin his life? My question basically is, because everyone tells me it's not a normal thing for a dad to say, is this just a typical dad thing? He's a drunk and bipolar and has depression so I guess it's just his illnesses
    8 answers · 9 hours ago
  • Who's being unreasonable here?

    I was raped a while ago, I went to the doctors without my parents knowledge (I live with them & I'm a teenager) to hopefully get therapy and PTSD diagnosis (I have many symptoms). I refused to tell my parents why I went to the doctor because I am not ready to talk to them about it and I know for a fact if I... show more
    I was raped a while ago, I went to the doctors without my parents knowledge (I live with them & I'm a teenager) to hopefully get therapy and PTSD diagnosis (I have many symptoms). I refused to tell my parents why I went to the doctor because I am not ready to talk to them about it and I know for a fact if I told them, all my extended family & their friends would know within the next 2 days and they are generally very traditional and wouldn't have been at all supportive and I'd probably be blamed. My parents got extremely angry for not telling them why I went to the doctors so my dad took my phone away completely and I am not allowed to be in my room alone unless I'm sleeping because they say they can't trust me. My father screamed telling me how if the family falls apart, it's all my fault and how I'm the reason all the bad things happen. I kept saying it isn't that big of a deal, I just need my privacy and my parents say it's a huge deal and there is no privacy and that they have to know everything about me. Is this my fault? What do I do, how do I deal with this? Thank you in advance
    11 answers · 1 day ago
  • Found out my dad been lied to me for 25 years?

    Best answer: Telling your child, their mother died as a result of being a drunk driver has to be one of the hardest things ever You had lost your mother, he didnt exactly lie, he softened the truth she DID die as the result of a drunk driver he just omitted that it was herself I do think you need to discuss this with him, he... show more
    Best answer: Telling your child, their mother died as a result of being a drunk driver has to be one of the hardest things ever
    You had lost your mother, he didnt exactly lie, he softened the truth
    she DID die as the result of a drunk driver
    he just omitted that it was herself

    I do think you need to discuss this with him, he lost his wife, he was left a single father
    he would have had MANY emotions, grief, fear, anger
    so approach gently, he did what he thought was best at a VERY tragic time
    You should know what happened to your mother, and he is the person to ask
    I know its easy to say this, but listen to what he has to say, try and not be angry at him
    I'm a parent, I cannot begin to imagine how hard it must have been, on both of you.
    He wouldnt want to sully your young memories of her
    10 answers · 22 hours ago
  • How do I get my 12 year old daughter to stop pestering me about her problems at school or on social media?

    Best answer: Had exactly the same problem mate ignore all these idiot answers children have to learn that petty things like that and you have to focus on real concerns. I hope you remind her everyday of all the work and sacrifice you put in for her to have the life she does. Luckily for me my wife just started to deal with all... show more
    Best answer: Had exactly the same problem mate ignore all these idiot answers children have to learn that petty things like that and you have to focus on real concerns. I hope you remind her everyday of all the work and sacrifice you put in for her to have the life she does. Luckily for me my wife just started to deal with all that stuff. I would recommend finding someone else for her to share her problems petty issues with.
    10 answers · 22 hours ago
  • Should I give up my dream school because of boyfriend ?

    So I got accepted and a full ride to an amazing school in the Bay Area ( California) I currently live in North Carolina ... I’ve always wanted to live in California (no not to become a movie star lol, I’d be going to school for software engineering/ web development so I’d have a career in Tech) with that being said... show more
    So I got accepted and a full ride to an amazing school in the Bay Area ( California) I currently live in North Carolina ... I’ve always wanted to live in California (no not to become a movie star lol, I’d be going to school for software engineering/ web development so I’d have a career in Tech) with that being said , my current boyfriend doesn’t want to go straight to a 4 year because he’s afraid of debt/cost. So is working & thinking about getting his CDL’s (he has a lot going on in his family so is going the fast route) he’s from New York, and Is currently in NC as well. He said because he’s lived in the city forever he loves N.C. & that’s his final destination ... he doesn’t want to leave. He said California is out of the question because it’ll be too far from his mother/family and is giving me a hard time about going because I’d be moving far. WHAT DO I DO? I’m not very happy in N.C. because of the fact that I’ve been here FOREVER. I’ve been on the west coast before & I absolutely love it. HELP!!
    8 answers · 4 hours ago
  • My family won’t stop stealing my packages out of the mail, what do I do?

    Every time I order I package online my sister ends up getting the mail and steals my package, she either keeps it for herself or turns it over to my parents who if they don’t like/approve of what it is will try to get rid of it. What can I do to stop them from doing this?? Also they’ve been doing this as long as... show more
    Every time I order I package online my sister ends up getting the mail and steals my package, she either keeps it for herself or turns it over to my parents who if they don’t like/approve of what it is will try to get rid of it. What can I do to stop them from doing this?? Also they’ve been doing this as long as I’ve been able to buy things online
    7 answers · 5 hours ago
  • What are insufffiecnment funds?

    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
    Best answer: It means that you do not have the money or do not have the entire amount of money that you are trying to spend on a debit or credit card.
    6 answers · 3 days ago